Jeff Crippen, author and pastor for over 30 years, and Barbara Roberts, author and survivor of domestic abuse, created this website to:
- educate people to the abuser’s mentality and tactics
- teach what scripture really says about abuse, marriage, and divorce
- recommend resources for further help
- provide a safe environment for victims of domestic abuse to be encouraged, validated, and believed.
See complete bios and contact information for Ps Crippen and Barbara Roberts below along with bios of some of the other team members. Feel free to contact us but please bear in mind that we receive lots of emails and cannot be ‘friends’ with all our readers or share all the details of your lives, but we do try to reply to serious concerns and questions. Please give your email a descriptive subject line if you are emailing us. “Blog question” is not very descriptive. Neither is “From Susan.” A descriptive subject line would be “My church is threatening to excommunicate me.” A good subject line helps us sort through our inboxes and keep track of things. And if you are referring to a web site, web page or blog post, please give us the exact link. That saves us time.
Jeff Crippen (administrator) is the pastor of Christ Reformation Church in Tillamook, Oregon and has been a pastor since 1983. Jeff has studied the subject of domestic violence and abuse since 2009. In 2012 he co-authored a book entitled A Cry for Justice: How the Evil of Domestic Abuse Hides in your Church [*affiliate link]; his desire being to equip pastors, elders, church leaders and members to recognize the signs of abuse and to be prepared to help the victims. He began this study after he and his church suffered through an incident of sexual abuse by a member of their church. As a result he taught a 21-sermon series entitled Domestic Violence and Abuse. Jeff and his wife Verla have been married over 40 years. From 1971 to 1983 Jeff was a police officer. After completing graduate studies at Multnomah Biblical Seminary in Portland, Oregon he and his family were sent to their first church in the mountains of western Montana. They still return there as often as possible to hunt and fish. Verla is a medical assistant at a physician’s clinic. Their son lives in Portland, and their daughter and her husband live in Canada. This post tells Jeff’s story of how he woke up to the issue of domestic abuse.
Contact Ps Jeff Crippen: firstname.lastname@example.org
Barbara Roberts (administrator) was born again in her early 20s but didn’t get to church for 13 years. During this time in the wilderness she married an unbeliever and they had a daughter. After six years she left because of her husband’s abuse, was successful in gaining child custody, and started attending church. She refrained from divorce because she thought she didn’t have biblical grounds. Four years later her husband appeared to become a Christian and they reconciled, but a year later she separated again because the abuse recurred. She started supporting other victim-survivors and eventually wrote the book Not Under Bondage [*affiliate link] and developed a website to address domestic abuse in a Christian context. She has also contributed a chapter in the book, Intimate Partner Sexual VIolence: A Multidisciplinary Guide to Improving Services and Support for Survivors of Rape and Abuse, which is an authoritative resource for all professionals who work with IPSV victims. The chapter is called ‘Pastoral Responses to Christian Survivors of Intimate Partner Sexual VIolence’. She knows what it is like to fight for your child in the family court, to endure post-separation abuse (especially during visitation handover), and to have to seek protection orders and report family violence crimes to the police. She was married again for two years in her fifties, but this marriage also ended because of abuse. She loves writing, supporting survivors, and networking. She lives in Australia and has a cute little black dog who has a lot more empathy than many people do.
Barbara’s author page on Amazon is amazon.com/author/barbroberts
More biographical info can be found here: Angela Ruth Strong’s interview with Barbara Roberts
Contact Barbara Roberts: email@example.com
Persistent Widow (editor) lived years in verbal and emotional abuse. Life was like a roller coaster with her husband’s mood fluctuating from over the top cheerful to frighteningly dark and brooding. Not realizing that her husband was abusive, she thought that he had a severe anger management problem and tried to run her household despite his outbursts. Over time, his good side disappeared and his anger (including calling her profane names, property damage, threats, and disappearances) was a constant in the household. A long time PCA member, PW asked for church intervention out of concern for her children when her husband assaulted a man at another church. The church did nothing to help. When it was discovered that her husband had been conducting a relationship with another woman, the church pushed Peacemakers and joint marriage counseling, both of which assigned mutual blame in the problem. PW asserts that the church did not follow discipline as outlined in the Westminster Confession, but rather church actions incited his anger to the point of death threats against her.
PW has since left the PCA and found a pleasant refuge in the LCMS. She continues to work at ACFJ with the hope that the church at large will realize that they are harming victims of abuse and their children and reform their practices. She laments damage done to the witness of the Christian Church by enabling abuse through bad theology and lack of empathy.
She is particularly interested in the study of Confessional Lutheranism and has previously studied the Westminster Confession and Reformed theology. She owns a small business, enjoys many children, grandchildren, and pets, and she loves the challenge of maintaining a cottage garden.
Contact Persistent Widow: firstname.lastname@example.org. (please be patient for a reply, but all emails will be answered)
Katy (editor) was married for almost 7 years and had three children in that marriage. She was abused emotionally, spiritually, and verbally; and physically threatened by things like punching holes in walls, jerking her baby out of her arms, and letting her give birth in her car instead of taking her to the hospital when she was in labor. She escaped in 2009 with the help of God – gaining custody of her children and moving to South Carolina where she has family. She works as an engineer by day, and she builds houses and furniture as a hobby. She is raising her children with the help of her family, and she wants to aid other women facing this evil of abuse.
Ellie (editor) For almost 21 years Ellie was married to a mental, verbal, and physical abuser who in addition to pornography, commited adultery with his married subordinate before Ellie divorced him. By God’s grace and through the generosity and compassion of family, Ellie has been able to continue being a stay at home homeschooling mom to her children. She hopes that her writing at ACFJ will bring hope and freedom to the abused and will equip others to effectively help those who are being abused. Ellie also maintains a blog about things she learns as she helps her children learn to trust and obey Christ at LearningByEar.com.
Contact Ellie: email@example.com
Wendell (editor) has been a Christian since late childhood and is a former pastor, a victim of childhood abuse and the father of a spousal-abuse victim. It was his introduction to the abuse and subsequent divorce that his daughter suffered that brought him to the blog. He has a special heart for the families of abuse victims and, due to his experiences fighting a former pornography addiction, has a unique understanding of that world and those affected by it. He has a Bachelor’s degree in Practical Theology and a Master of Science in Information Science. He is currently a library automation specialist for a library system in southeastern Texas. He and his wife Zelma (who has a PhD in Educational Psychology) have been married for over 37 years. They have two daughters who live in the same area as well as eight grandchildren.
Contact Wendell: firstname.lastname@example.org
Deborah (contributor) is a Christ follower, a wife and a mom, a survivor of domestic abuse and a writer. She’s a special education teacher by training but no longer teaches. She runs a charity with her husband that helps women understand and come out of abuse. She’s published a book of poetry born out of her healing journey, and is currently working on another book of poetry as well as a book on abuse aimed at prevention.
Contact Deborah: Deborahmom@gmx.com
TWBTC (the woman behind the curtain) has been a Christian since childhood. She is thankful for her Christian upbringing, but mixed with the truth she was taught, she erroneous believed that God hated divorce and that divorce was only allowed for cases of adultery. After 29 years of an emotional, verbal, and spiritually abusive marriage, God graciously led her to freedom. She is also blessed to have excellent relationships with her children even though they initially struggled with her decision to file for divorce and were pressured by their father to reject her. TWBTC spends most of her time at ACFJ behind the curtain keeping things tidy and organized, and doing general blog housekeeping. If you come upon a broken link, need help navigating the website, or have a question regarding the website, please contact her.
Contact TWBTC: email@example.com
Heather (Facebook editor) was raised by a single mom who was a staunch Roman Catholic and an emotional, verbal, and at times physical abuser. This background conditioned Heather to think of herself as bad and experience much shame and guilt. She became born again in 1980 and was freed from bondage to a religious system which damaged the child in her; however, she was married to a man who was raised to objectify women. Early in her marriage he committed adultery and eventually became a serial adulterer. She stayed married because as a stay at home mom it was not expedient to leave with children. When her children were young adults she began to see the truth and lies. She had built her life around a fantasy and false hopes, believing God for a miracle that never came. Her husband didn’t love her though he looked so wonderful to everyone. One day she had had enough and she left, shocking everyone. Her husband turned her family, friends, and church against her by presenting himself as a wounded husband. Although she tried on two occasions counseling and reconciliation each time failed. As a victim of a passive aggressive covert abuser, it became quite clear that she didn’t matter as she was gaslighted, lied to, objectified, and made to endure his sins so the family looked like the perfect Christian family
But the Lord sheltered her, and two of her children have been her strength as their eyes opened to the truth. She eventually remarried a good and godly man. They are both involved in helping victims of various forms of abuse. Additionally, they are active in their new community and involved in the local musical theater. It is a new experience for them and they love the fiends they have made and their time on stage.
Contact Heather: Heather.gray55@Yahoo.co.uk
Megan C (Meg is no longer a Contributor but she is an active reader of ACFJ and a full supporter.) Meg chose to follow Christ after her parents were killed in a car accident in 1998. She attended Liberty University where she met and married a man who was studying to be a pastor. They had four children. For 12 years, Megan and her children were mentally, verbally, emotionally, spiritually and physically abused. The marriage ended in 2011 and Megan was able to receive sole custody of her children and move on toward healing. Megan has a Masters degree from Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary. Megan now resides in Colorado with her husband, Dr. David B. Cox, where she spends most of her time caring for her family and writing. Megan has a great big heart for the oppressed — all those who are abused all over the world.
Contact MeganC: firstname.lastname@example.org
ACFJ is an Amazon Associate
A Cry For Justice is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to amazon.com. If we give a book as a link to Amazon and you click on the link and purchase the book, we receive a small percentage of the retail price (around 4 – 6%, depending on volume of sales we engender per month).
The money we raise from being Amazon Associates will go towards paying the annual WordPress fee to keep the blog free of ads, and sending copies of our own books to victim-survivors who are in financial difficulties or to people of influence who may be able to review and recommend our books.
We (Jeff Crippen and Barbara Roberts) are doing this cooperatively between us in good faith as private individuals.
May I republish something from your blog?
Apart from a few cases where a copyright notice is explicitly stated in a post, we are happy for you to re-post material from this blog. Please show common courtesy by not distorting the meaning of the material if you are only quoting parts from it.
We can’t stop perpetrators of abuse from re-posting our stuff, but we don’t give them any oxygen for doing so, so we trash the automatic notification that says “Re-posted on blah-de-blah-wordpress.com.”
If you don’t have money to buy Barb’s book
If you are a victim of abuse and can’t afford Barbara Robert’s book Not Under Bondage: Biblical Divorce for Abuse, Adultery and Desertion, please email Barb at the address given above and explain your situation. For your own safety, make sure you use an email address that is your abuser cannot access. Barb can usually arrange for a copy to be shipped to you as a gift. Some victims can’t afford the book but are able to pay the shipping cost (using PayPal). If that applies to you, mention that in your email.
Another alternative is to ask your local library to stock it.
Help Us Spread the Word!
ACFJ has created flyers and business cards for our readers’ use. These flyers and business cards provide information and contact details about the ACFJ website, and we encourage you to share them with domestic violence shelters, counselors, coalitions, churches, and other domestic violence resource agencies. Click on any of the links below and you will be shown either a flyer or a business card that you can print and distribute. You can choose between black/white or color, depending on your printing capabilities. Print as many as you like. Spread the Word!
We have a Suggestion Box.