New Users’ Information
Our Resources page, found on the top menu, has an abundance of information regarding multiple aspects of abuse. If you do not know where to begin we suggest the following four resources (affiliate links*). They will give you a solid start in understanding the dynamics of domestic abuse whether you are a victim of domestic abuse or a supporter of a victim.
*A Cry for Justice: How the Evil of Domestic Abuse Hides in Your Church by Ps Jeff Crippen
*Not Under Bondage: Biblical Divorce for Abuse, Adultery and Desertion by Barbara Roberts
21 Sermon Series entitled Domestic Violence and Abuse by Ps Jeff Crippen
*Why Does He DO That? by Lundy Bancroft
Commenting on this Blog
Be mindful when making comments that this is a public blog so your children or family members may see your comments either now or in years to come. This blog is not a like a forum where passwords are required. For those who wan a password protected forum, we have some links to FORUMS which you find by scrolling down and looking at the right hand side bar.
The blog is in some ways like a support group for survivors but without the promise of mutual confidentiality that you have in support groups where everyone promises “What is said here, stays here.” We encourage readers to be aware of balancing risks and benefits when using a blog like this.
Also, bear in mind that on the web there is no such thing as complete immunity from hackers. We wish there were!
Submitting a Comment
You can submit a comment either anonymously, with a screen name or your real name. When you hit the “reply” icon, a comment box appears. Under the comment box it says “Fill in your details below/click an icon to log in:” There are three lines:
1. a line for your email address
2. a line that says “name”
3. a line that says “website”
What you write in the second line will be your “screen name” when the comment is published. You can write any name you chose in the second line. If safety is an issue, choose a name that is not identifying. You can write pseudonym, or “Anonymous” or your real name. It’s totally up to you. Though we don’t recommend using your full name.
Your email address will never be shown publicly on the blog; only the Administrators and Editors of A Cry For Justice will be able to see your email address from the ‘editorial back-room’ of the blog. They can also see you ISP (the internet provider you use); this is the default way WordPress works.
Your may like to read our Publishing Policy to learn about how we moderate comments.
Following Comments on a Particular Post
To be informed about new comments that come in on a post, you have to comment yourself at that post and then tick the little box that says “notify me of follow up comments via email”.
It’s quite okay to just write as your comment “I’m ticking the box” if that’s all you want to say. You don’t have to wax lyrical!
Commenting on Older Posts
Feel free to submit a comment to any post, no matter how old the post is.
Nesting of Comments
The blog is set to nest up to three levels of comment within a thread. Visually it looks a little like this.
THE POST ITSELF
Person A’s comment is set to the left margin (a level one comment)
Person B comments on A’s (a level two comment)
Person C comments on B’s comment (a level three comment)
There is no ‘reply’ option after a level three comment.
Handy tip: If you have commented on the thread and ticked the ”notify me of follow up comments via email” box, you will get an email for each new comment that comes in on that thread. If you click on the REPLY box in the email notification, your comment will be published underneath the comment you are replying to.
If you comment at the bottom of the thread in the box where it says “Leave a Reply” your comment will be a level one comment. It will not be nested inside previous comments.
It doesn’t matter much if your comment ends up in the wrong place in a thread. But to clarify things, it’s helpful to refer to another comment by the person’s name or by quoting some of what they wrote. Readers can usually make sense of things and put two and two together.
We try to stay on topic in a thread, but we don’t always manage it.
When you submit a comment, WordPress adds a gravatar for you – a little square box with a symmetrical colored pattern in it. These colored images are generated automatically by WordPress. Some people have a photo as their gravatar: to do this you upload a photo to your WordPress account.
If you comment anonymously or by using a screen name rather than you real name, you may occasionally wish to submit a comment without your usual gravatar showing next to the comment. There are two ways to achieve this:
1. You can email the comment to Barb, Jeff, or TWBTC telling us which post you want it added to. So if I (Barb) add your comment on that post, it will appear with my gravatar (my photo) but I will say, “This comment was sent to me privately and I’m submitting it here on behalf of the commenter who wished to remain anonymous.” Some of our readers have done that when commenting on sexual abuse matters because they didn’t want their normal gravatar to be linked to such a personal disclosure.
2. You could create an entirely new WordPress account (call it account Y) using a different email address. WordPress will generate a different gravatar for your Y account. If normally you are logged in to your WordPress account X and comment from there by default, you would have to log out of your X Account and log in to your Y Account, then make the comment on our blog.
Language to avoid
Kindly refrain from using language that would be offensive to our readers — any word that people like school teachers would consider a swear word or a vulgar term, and use of the Lord’s name as an expletive or a simple expostulation.
Removing comments that you have made
If you want us to remove or modify any comment you have made, please email TWBTC (the woman behind the curtain) at firstname.lastname@example.org and she take of it for you.
Please give your email a descriptive subject line when emailing us.
“Please change my comment” is not very descriptive. Neither is “From Susan.” A descriptive subject line would be “Please change my comment on the ‘Gaslighting’ post.” A good subject line helps us sort through our inboxes and keep track of things. And if you can give us a link to the page or post you are referring to that helps even more.