Thursday Thought — Entitlement
Does your partner expect you to live up to a high and unreasonable set of demands and expectations? Yet at the same time does he act angry or victimized when you demand anything of him? Is he selfishly focused on his own needs, even if he was generous early in your relationship or is generous with other people? Do you feel that no matter how hard you try, nothing you do for him seems to be good enough, and he always acts as if you owe him even more? The answers to these questions reveal a man’s level of entitlement, which is the fundamental outlook that drives men’s abuse of women. It is your partner’s entitlement, not your faults or failures, that is causing him to be chronically critical of you and dissatisfied.
(excerpt from Lundy Bancroft’s book, When Dad Hurts Mom, p28)
***IMPORTANT NOTE: While we endorse Lundy’s writings about the dynamics of domestic abuse, we do not recommend anyone attend the ‘healing retreats’ Lundy Bancroft offers or become involved in his ‘Peak Living Network.’ See our post, ACFJ Does Not Recommend Lundy Bancroft’s Retreats or His New Peak Living Network for more about our concerns.