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Bondage & “Discipline”? Or Wings? — be blessed by a Give Her Wings gift

By Megan, from Give Her Wings  (condensed and reblogged)

As the movie “50 Shades of Grey” hits the theaters our hearts at Give Her Wings are heavy. They are heavy because we stand for freedom . . . we stand for grace . . . we stand for what is good and lovely. And we stand for these values passionately because Christ stands for them passionately. The sensational book, 50 Shades of Grey draws the reader into a story of bondage, discipline and (let’s face it) abuse. And, you know what? “Consensual” abuse is still abuse.

Anything that takes away another person’s freedom goes directly against what Jesus came to do for us. He took the bondage; He took the chains; He took death upon a cross to give us freedom. Freedom to be in a relationship with Him, freedom from sin, freedom from death, freedom to love others. And our charge? Set the captives free. Be like Him.

Even if it is consensual, then the person in bondage is still just that — in bondage. The terms of the dominant-submissive relationship are manipulative. He gives her everything she could ever want in return for her submission to his bondage. Is that love? Is that freedom? We love, as Christians . . . without expecting anything in return. How does Christ love us? He never pushes, never demands, never forces and NEVER takes for himself to the detriment of others.

As a meaningful counter to what Hollywood is doing, Give Her Wings is offering Megan Cox’s book, Give Her Wings: Help and Healing After Abuse for free with ANY donation to our non-profit organization. Big or small. The book is yours.

Every donation that is given will go directly to paying the bills of GHW’s March mama and bringing her some relief, financially.

10 Comments

  1. MeganC

    Thank you so much for spreading the word, friends!

  2. Thank you guys!! Also I want to add — that the only way I would support this stupid movie is if the ending was realistic!! Meaning “Christian Grey” dumps “Anastasia” on the side of the road with 3 kids and a suitcase, and then rides off into the sunset with his new mistress!!!!
    THEN we can talk about what a great movie it is. UGH!

  3. standsfortruth

    Thank you for all you are doing to help victims of abuse Megan.
    I can find the donation address at your blog Site, Give her Wings, right?
    Looking forward to reading your book soon.
    These movies that glamorize abusiveness towards women are only causing more confusion about what is, and what is not acceptable in relationships.

    • MeganC

      Thank you, Standsfortruth. And, I assure you, I don’t do it alone! We have a wonderful team of 12 people all over the country working hard every day. Yes — You can find the donation address at our website: http://www.giveherwings.com

      Hugs!

  4. Brenda R

    I didn’t understand people, especially women, wanting to read the books. I certainly don’t want to see the movie. Giver Her Wings is awesome.

  5. Tsungilosdi

    I found this link about the movie and wanted to scream! I wonder how many of these suffering marriages are suffering, NOT because of less fun in the bedroom, but because their spouses are abusing them. Instead of telling women to fantasize about their husbands instead of this movie, how about telling them that they need to focus on the issues in the marriage and if it is abuse, to run! This movie’s issue from what I have read is that not only is it a sexual smorgasbord, but it is an unhealthy and abusive relationship. This blog that I read just triggered so much for me. These keeep women stuck in these relationships….try harder, do more, pray more. It is all on us.

    http://www.scissortailsilk.com/2015/02/10/christian-women-and-christian-grey/

  6. Lighting a Candle

    I fear this movie will be the first of many. Hollywood does seem to go with winning formulas.
    When you think about how powerful fairy tales, movies and stories have been in creating the cultural idea’s of love, beauty, and happy endings, this is really a dark development.

    And as to the enormous power of one book or film. “The Rise of a Nation” “Mein Kampf” “, “Das Capital” “The Wealth of Nations (Adam Smith- capitalism), The 95 Theses. Ideas can change the course of history. It is a tragedy and a dark day, that this one has been loosed in the world.

    More reasons for DV survivors and advocates to keep speaking out!

    • . . . evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and being deceived. (2 Tim. 3:13)

      • Lighting a Candle

        I also think about the end times when men will be “without love.” Lovers of self” and “without natural affection”….Since God IS LOVE maybe this is one reason sin and the enemy attack, pervert and misrepresent this foundational truth.

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