I Saw a Sociopath Yesterday – And Everyone Thought He was Great!
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy. (Proverbs 27:6)
My wife and I recently traveled up to Canada and rode the ferry over to Vancouver Island. While waiting to board we noticed a guy in the waiting area who would have been the “life of the party” in most any setting. This guy went out of his way to talk to people. He had a smile on his face. He took note of people and commented positively on their appearance or their interests. He asked where they were going. And once a conversation was started, well, he spoke confidently and convincingly about any topic that came up. He had been everywhere and done everything. He worked in a (glance around the room quickly) rather hush-hush high tech job. And the people loved it. On and on they talked. I am sure they went away thinking – what a wonderful man!
My wife and I looked at each other and said, “That guy is a sociopath.” I have no doubt we were correct. The disarming charm. The apparent intelligence. The seeming concern for others (which was really a mask for total self-absorption). The classic signs.
He wasn’t wearing a wedding ring. I wonder how many people lay devastated in the swath of his sociopathic march through life?
Oh, and if we had stood up and said “Watch out for that guy! He’s is a classic sociopath. He is using you!” The response? “How dare you speak that way about this wonderful guy!”
Ok. You will have to learn the hard way.