The Abuser as Law-Breaker
The wicked consistently break God’s commandments, and the abuser who claims to be a Christian is the most wicked law-breaker of all. Let’s see if we can think of ways abusers, who want to be God themselves, habitually by their very nature defy and violate God’s Law:
Exodus 20:3 “You shall have no other gods before me.”
This one is easy. The abuser considers himself to be God. He craves, like Satan, to be “like the Most High.” That is why he demands the worship of his victims, insisting that they make him the center of the universe. The abuser is his god, and one day he will meet the true God face to face. It will not go well for him.
Exodus 20: 4-6 “You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the LORD your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing steadfast love to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments.”
I suppose this one is a bit harder to think of. We know that in Romans 1 Paul says that idolaters make images of crawling creatures, and even of man himself. When the abuser thinks in his mind of what God must look like, he necessarily sees himself. He sets himself up as an idol, then bows down to his own image.
Exodus 20: 7 “You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain, for the LORD will not hold him guiltless who takes his name in vain.”
The abusers we primarily deal with claim to be Christians. They therefore take the name of the Lord in vain every time they speak of religion, make their empty profession of Christ, offer up prayers in Christ’s name, and even each Sunday when they walk through the church doors. Every mention of the Lord by an abuser is blasphemy in God’s eyes.
Exodus 20:8-11 “Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days you shall labor, and do all your work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the LORD your God. On it you shall not do any work, you, or your son, or your daughter, your male servant, or your female servant, or your livestock, or the sojourner who is within your gates. For in six days the LORD made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested on the seventh day. Therefore the LORD blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.”
Many abusers are diligent church members. They are “in church” every time the church doors are open. But the abuser is the prime example of hypocrisy. His presence in a worship service is an affront to the Lord. Some abusers even religiously lead their families in Bible study and prayer in the home. Such actions profane the Sabbath day.
Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you.”
An abuser who is a parent breaks this commandment in both directions. He is a shame to his own parents, but he also is a dishonor to his children. How can the children of an abuser honor such a wicked man? He causes them to stumble.
Exodus 20:13 “You shall not murder.”
This one is easy too. Abusers are murderers. Abusers work to destroy the lives of their victims. Many do so literally by killing them violently, while others kill their victim very slowly. Abuse robs a person of their health. Most of the long time abuse victims we know suffer from serious illnesses, often some kind of immune system disorder.
Exodus 20:14 “You shall not commit adultery.”
Well, here it is. Abusers very often commit literal adultery, but every abuser is an adulterer in that he violates the marriage covenant in every way. He does not love, honor and cherish his bride as he vowed to do. Abusers are cheats.
Exodus 20:15 “You shall not steal.”
How many ways could we list under this category? Abusers are thieves and robbers. They take what is not theirs, demanding power and control they are not entitled to. They abuse their victim economically, refusing to give their wife a fair share of the finances.
Exodus 20:16 “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.”
Abusers are liars. They are constantly bearing false witness, lying to deceive and dupe and gain allies against their victim. They tell lies to their children. They lie to their victim. In fact, just about every time an abuser’s mouth is open, he is telling a lie just like his father the devil.
Exodus 20:17 “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor’s.”
And abusers covet. They see what others have and they demand it for themselves, turning their wicked tactics upon people so as to obtain what is not theirs. Abusers covet power. They covet self-glory.
Now, just how do you think it is going to go with such a person when they stand before God’s holy tribunal one day? Christ will be of no avail to them because they are not in Christ, despite all their claims of religion. The Lord sees it all. He knows. No abuser will escape. Perfect justice will be effected, to the glory and praise of God.