A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

2015 in Review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

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The Louvre Museum has 8.5 million visitors per year. This blog was viewed about 640,000 times in 2015. If it were an exhibit at the Louvre Museum, it would take about 27 days for that many people to see it.

Attractions in 2015:  These are the posts that got the most views in 2015.

Signs Your Husband May Be Addicted to Pornography 220 Comments February 2013

Bad News For Victims from Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Holly Elliff — by Kathy 191 comments January 2013

Anger is Not the Abuser’s Issue — He Didn’t “Just Snap” 35 comments June 2015

Checklist for Repentance (via Not Under Bondage) 8 comments March 2012

How to Spot an Abuser Who Claims to be the Victim  10 comments January 2012 

Our most commented on post in 2015 was:

Heal ANY Marriage — Really Henry Cloud?? Really?? 

Where do our Readers come from?

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199 different countries!! That’s quite the mission field! In fact, some of our team had their light hidden under a bushel for decades by abusers and their health has been so damaged in the process that they almost believed God could no longer use them . . . and now . . . being on the ACFJ team they find they are ministering to people in countries all over the world.  Their dreams of being missionaries are being fulfilled!

ALL our commenters are highly valued, but according to wordpress, these were our five most active commenters:

1:  Still Reforming — 669 comments
2:  Brenda R — 163 comments
3:  Valerie — 148 comments
4:  Healinginhim — 142 comments
5:  Round2 — 140 comments

Thank you one and all for your support in 2015. We look forward to an exciting 2016 with many developments in this work. So long as the Lord tarries and so long as the cry for justice needs to go forth, we will not take our hands from the plough.

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14 Comments

  1. Still Reforming

    Make that 670 comments. 🙂

    Just kidding. My, but I’m verbose. Perhaps it’s time for a New Years resolution.

    • a prodigal daughter returns

      SR and other commenters, you add a lot, and when silent readers read your comments they feel understood and supported. When I first came here those sharing their experiences in response to the blog helped me feel like I belonged somewhere because I saw there were others like me! So… keep on commenting!

      • I second that! The comments from readers are a vital part of this blog. I feel joy when I see (as I often do) how one commenter responds to another commenter, giving validation and empathy. The feeling it sparks — “I am not alone! I am not the only one who’s experienced that!” is of inestimable value. Truly, each of us helps each other, whether were are on the ACFJ team or are commenters. The sum is much more than the individual parts. And when I see a previously silent reader sparked to make a first-time commment because of what another commenter said, my heart is deeply warmed and I give thanks to God.

        And whether a commenter is still living with the abuser or has separated or divorced, we each have something unique to contribute. It is so important for our readers (especially our silent readers) to see that at whatever stage or situation the oppressed person is in, that person has value and dignity and their voice and perspective is important.

  2. Still Reforming

    Btw, twbtc, this is very cool that you pulled stats this way.

    I find the titles of the posts that got the most views this year to be interesting. Only one is from this year. I wonder why those topics got the most hits. Porn, anger, genuine repentance, false proclamations of victimhood (by the abuser), and reality checks top the list. That’s interesting.

    I also wonder how many of those countries that don’t show reaching this blog site – I wonder how many of those have Internet access constricted, if at all available. Some folks are likely too poor to have computer access, and many countries have Internet restrictions. ACFJ really is spreading truth as far and wide as can be.

    (cough) 671 comments (cough) 😉

  3. healinginhim

    There were so many times that I wanted to hold back and “not comment” but some of ACFJ’s posts were just so intense and other’s commenting often needed encouragement. There is no doubt that I have received much from this ministry but I must also confess to still suffering with being very confused and fearful of ‘moving forward’.
    Praying for God’s wisdom on the ACFJ ministry team and all those who are strengthened by the work put forth. “Dear Lord, we truly desire that our lives bring glory to You.”

  4. Savedbygrace

    Thanks for sharing this review! it’s very interesting… I thank God for the team at ACFJ and your commitment to this ministry and all the hard work that goes into the posts.. but more than that I thank you that you genuinely care and show Christ’s compassion…I know as I review my own year, ACFJ has been a lifeline and a beacon of hope.. thankyou to all those who share their stories and their wisdom and perspectives and being part of this community..you have truly enriched my life this year and made a difference!
    Happy New Year to all 🙂

  5. a prodigal daughter returns

    What encouraging statistics! I hope that those of us in countries where the gospel is freely allowed, although tainted by patriarchy, pray for our sisters living in countries where the gospel is not allowed at all. Mustard seeds are the tiniest seed, oh but when they grow they become places of refuge. May the words of truth be a mustard seed that becomes a mighty and powerful tree of hope, righteousness and refuge wherever those words are heard.

  6. Amy

    Thank you, ACFJ, for all that YOU do! I’m always pointing people to your website.

    I pray that 2016 brings more readers to your blog and that your ministry continues to grow.

    Blessings!

  7. marriedwithouthusband

    Yes, thank you, ACFJ. There were many times that I and my best friend would send each other the day’s entry at the same time. This site has helped me through many a rough moment.

  8. grace551

    I agree with Amy’s prayer.

    ACFJ team, you will surely have a great reward in heaven. Thank you.

  9. Year after year, Wendell’s post Signs Your Husband May Be Addicted to Pornography is far and away our most viewed post.

    There must be myriads of Christian women who are sensing that their husband is using porn and may be addicted to it.

    I have heard senior police say that the ready availability of pornography since the advent of the internet has created a new cohort of criminals: men who (pre-internet) would not have been likely to ever view images of children being abused. The addictive potential of web-porn is much greater than when obtaining porn required more effort and care for concealment by the porn user.

    • a prodigal daughter returns

      What a sad thing about the internet and its dark uses. Such sin sick and debauched humanity increasing in wickedness. Yet, I’m so grateful that this corner of the internet can be redeemed by the power of the gospel. That the captive can be set free from hearing the truth here, that those in bondage can hear of others that find freedom in Christ from their addictions and pain, what a way for the light to obliterate the darkness! May it do so in ever increasing measure by the grace of God.

    • Still Reforming

      Barbara,

      That admission by senior police to you re: child porn demonstrates the true intent of these men – for what sexuality has a child? None. The motivation on the part of the perpetrator is pure power and control.

      A police captain who taught a self-defense class (called Rape Aggression Defense, or RAD) I recently attended said that rape is about control and power. This is the gut issue of abusers – and perhaps sexual offenses demonstrate that in a particularly evil fashion. Perhaps that’s why porn has so many… (what’s the right word here?)… participants/viewers (?). We’ve seen this with the Ashley Madison revelations this past year – and how this hides in the church.

      Interestingly, when Paul told the Corinthians that sexual immorality should not be among them in the church (1 Corinthians 5), the word in the Greek is “porneia,” which broadly refers to all types of sexual activity outside of marriage (including homosexuality). Paul called it out and put it in writing, whereas today’s ‘church’ leaders are complicit with that evil by either ignoring it, covering it up, or actively participating in it themselves.

  10. Innoscent

    From my little corner of the world I thank God for ACFJ ministry, everyone of the team members, and guests who have ministered to so many of us victims and friends. I would not have the discernment I have today without ACFJ. You’ve been like a church, a lifeline, a family.
    Throughout 2015 I read more that I could comment, I sometimes shed tears when empathizing with someone else, shouted when feeling deeply validated, felt in awe at the depth of some posts and comments and sent prayers for the teams and readers. All in all I wouldn’t be where I am today, that’s for sure. I am so grateful to God for the Truth learned that equipped me to move forward and for the support and care of readers. Even grateful for going through the craziness of abuse because on the other side I have found myself again and have seen the amazing workings of God in dire and seemingly hopeless days.

    For 2016 I wish everyone discernment and faith to go through what is ahead as this world is soon to fall apart and is being filled with an increasing number of abusers.

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