Examples of the Wicked Things “Christians” are Telling Abuse Victims
The word of the LORD came to me: “Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel; prophesy, and say to them, even to the shepherds, Thus says the Lord GOD: Ah, shepherds of Israel who have been feeding yourselves! Should not shepherds feed the sheep? You eat the fat, you clothe yourselves with the wool, you slaughter the fat ones, but you do not feed the sheep. The weak you have not strengthened, the sick you have not healed, the injured you have not bound up, the strayed you have not brought back, the lost you have not sought, and with force and harshness you have ruled them. (Ezekiel 34:1-4)
A leader from my old church told me yesterday he refused to believe it was all my husband’s fault. I played a part. I was told to submit and he claims the word from the Lord was I would die bitter and not fulfill my calling if I divorce my husband. But the Lord didn’t tell him my husband was going to prostitutes using drugs and drinking. He also said I’m controlling. Because I wouldn’t let my kids around his family, that use cocaine…I showed him all my husband is doing recently, going to bars buying women drinks trying to pick them up bring them home but not giving us money. . .yet he told me that my husband is a good guy and needed me to fight for the marriage.
Friend of the Victim: Just let me say one thing. A man of God will not abuse his wife. They are one if they are married. He would not abuse his wife because she is part of him. If the abuse doesn’t stop I would have to say good-by. God doesn’t want anyone to be abused.Ally of the Abuser: You would be amazed at how many pastors in thriving ministries abuse their wives, are involved in pornography or other sexual sins. Men of God are not perfect. Attitudes such as yours make it all but impossible for these hurting men (and their wives) to openly get help. Been there, done that.
Friend of the Victim: A man who calls himself by the name of Christ and who is unrepentant of his sins against his wife, himself, and God, is not “a man of God.”