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Wise as Serpents: The Consistent Motive of Evil is to Enslave (Part 13 of sermon series)

I wanted to mention an observation related to last week’s message on evil’s inevitable path to Rome, in which we examined the letters to the seven churches of Asia in chapters 2-3 of Revelation. You will remember that just two of the seven churches received full commendation from Christ, Smyrna and Philadelphia. We also noticed that these two were apparently the “least” of the churches, Philadelphia being described as “having but little power” and Smyrna as “poor and suffering” – at least in human estimation. And we took encouragement from this. We are a very small church and we have experienced suffering for Christ and there are many enemies or people who are simply ignorant of the Lord’s ways who tell us we are unsuccessful, and that the Lord is not blessing us. We know these accusations to be false and we know because of the authority of the Word of God and the example of churches like these two small churches of the first century. But here is another example from Scripture which I hope will encourage you.

I was listening last week to a sermon series preached 40 years ago by a pastor named Harold Sonnerma at the Mount Hermon Bible Conference Center, forty years ago. He made the following statement and I found it very accurate and encouraging.  I have paraphrased his words here to condense them, but they are accurately represented here:

Noah preached the gospel for 120 years without one single convert. Now, Scripture tells us this —

Just as it was in the days of Noah, so will it be in the days of the Son of Man. They were eating and drinking and marrying and being given in marriage, until the day when Noah entered the ark, and the flood came and destroyed them all. Likewise, just as it was in the days of Lot — they were eating and drinking, buying and selling, planting and building, but on the day when Lot went out from Sodom, fire and sulfur rained from heaven and destroyed them all — so will it be on the day when the Son of Man is revealed. (Luke 17:26-30)

Not ONE convert, so hardened and evil were the hearts of men in that day. So it will be again, and so it seems to be in our day. So do not let anyone discourage you in this regard. If a righteous man like Noah, chosen and blessed by the Lord, preached and preached FOR OVER A CENTURY with not one convert, we must not be discouraged if we find ourselves living in the very same circumstances. Lot did not find Sodom and Gomorrah ‘a fruitful mission field’ either.

We know by now that the fundamental nature of evil, on its quest to be God instead of God, is its profound mentality of entitlement to unjust power and control over all creation. Therefore you can be sure that:

Evil always is at work to enslave us.
To imprison us and make us serve the evildoer as his slave.

In the kingdom of God, there is no place for evil and thus no place for any demand that others serve us:

And Jesus called them to him and said to them, “You know that those who are considered rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. But it shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. (Mark 10:42-44)

It is all entirely counter to evil, you see. Evil imprisons. Evil enslaves. [The audio sermon had valuable additions here but Barb hasn’t had time to transcribe them.] Because evil demands to be worshipped and served as God. Here is an example:

Between 2002 and 2004, three young women, Michelle Knight, Amanda Berry and Georgina “Gina” DeJesus, were kidnapped by Ariel Castro in his home in the Tremont neighborhood of Cleveland, Ohio. They were subsequently imprisoned in his house on Seymour Avenue until May 6, 2013, when Berry escaped with her six-year-old daughter and contacted the police. Knight and DeJesus were rescued by responding officers and Castro was arrested within hours.

On May 8, 2013, Castro was charged with four counts of kidnapping and three counts of rape. Castro pled guilty to 937 criminal counts of rape, kidnapping, and aggravated murder as part of a plea bargain. He was sentenced to life plus 1,000 years in prison without the chance of parole. One month into his sentence, Castro committed suicide by hanging himself with bedsheets in his prison cell.  [Wikipedia]

No one will have power an control over him, so he kills himself. That’s why so many of these mass shooters kill themselves . . . 

This VERY SAME evil creeps in among us in our churches! Not rarely, but typically. The world applauds the escape of these three young women; but many, many times in the church when such victims of evil cry out for deliverance, they are disbelieved, disregarded, and sent back to their prison. Why? At best it is because Christians are foolishly and dangerously naïve about evil. At worst it is because the very people the victims seek help from share the same DNA as the evildoer. in every one of the four churches I have pastored, evil  people has to be battled…. [more here in the audio version of the sermon].

Think it through. Here is a blog post that I wrote to be published later this month, only for our purposes in this present series I have substituted “evil” for “abuser” —

Whoever steals a man and sells him, and anyone found in possession of him, shall be put to death. (Ex 21:16)

If a man is found stealing one of his brothers of the people of Israel, and if he treats him as a slave or sells him, then that thief shall die. So you shall purge the evil from your midst. (Deut 24:7)

… understanding this, that the law is not laid down for the just but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who strike their fathers and mothers, for murderers, the sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine (1 Tim 1:9-10)

I hope that the impact of these verses soaks into our minds deeply. And in particular, I hope that those churches and church leaders and church members who enable and protect evildoers will get a spiritual whack from these verses that will wake them up to the nature and gravity of their crime. The most resistant audience to this message are pastors. Some of them are getting attacked in their churches. And they don’t want to believe it. 

Evildoers are man-stealers. Evildoers enslave people.

And the kings of the earth, who committed sexual immorality and lived in luxury with her, will weep and wail over her when they see the smoke of her burning. They will stand far off, in fear of her torment, and say, “Alas! Alas! You great city, you mighty city, Babylon! For in a single hour your judgment has come.”

And the merchants of the earth weep and mourn for her [for Babylon], since no one buys their cargo anymore, cargo of gold, silver, jewels, pearls, fine linen, purple cloth, silk, scarlet cloth, all kinds of scented wood, all kinds of articles of ivory, all kinds of articles of costly wood, bronze, iron and marble, cinnamon, spice, incense, myrrh, frankincense, wine, oil, fine flour, wheat, cattle and sheep, horses and chariots, and slaves, that is, human souls. (Revelation 18:9-13 ESV)

Kidnappers and slave masters are to be put out of our midst. God’s Law pronounces their crime to be of a capital nature and all who do not repent of this evil will most certainly perish in hell for all eternity.

Evildoers are kidnappers and enslavers. Talk to any abuse victim. Most all of our blog readers know this quite well, having lived (or are still living) in these bonds. Evildoers kidnap their victim by deception, then keep them enslaved with all kinds of evil tactics. Financial abuse and bondage are a very, very common chain used to imprison the victim. Where can she go? She has no access to the money. He watches her use of every penny. She can’t afford an attorney. The possibility of leaving and getting her own housing and car is simply impossible. She is a slave. She has been kidnapped and imprisoned.

The Lord pronounces the wicked man-stealer’s punishment to be carried out with extreme prejudice. That is His Law. His people are to purge such a wicked one from their midst and will have the blood of the innocent on their hands if they do not.

Think on this further. Evil is about what? It is about unjustified power and control. Power and control = ownership. Enslavement. Kidnapping. Evil puts people in prison unjustly and torments them. Evildoers, in other words, are driven by the same spirit as their diabolic father, the devil. All of them.

But Pharaoh said, “Who is the LORD, that I should obey his voice and let Israel go? I do not know the LORD, and moreover, I will not let Israel go.” (Exodus 5:2)

Now, think this through quite carefully. The Lord Jesus Christ is REDEEMER. The Son of God came to set His people FREE. Therefore, His church is to be a community of freemen where the very atmosphere exudes liberty. And yet, it here in so many churches today where we find this plague of bondage called abuse/evil growing like a corroding fungus in our midst. But what will such “christians” do on that Day? What will such churches do who not only fail to purge this evil from amongst themselves and render aid and rescue to the victims, but who add to her chains?

What will you do when the Son of Man comes, you who have so sorely treated His bride? You have told His Bride she must remain in prison, abused by her kidnapper and enslaver. For example, all who deny divorce for reason of abuse and all who refuse to help her get free… all stand guilty before Him. All who refuse justice to victims of evil in the twisted name of “grace” or “mercy” or a distorted and mangled form of “forgiveness”.

Evildoers are kidnappers. Evildoers are enslavers. Purge this evil from among yourselves. That is the Lord Jesus Christ’s command.

Well Lord, we’ve got this kidnapper, Ariel Castro, and we’ve invited him to church, and we’re just gonna tell his slaves that they need to be more humble and more submissive to him. Sounds extreme — but that’s what so many churches are doing. 

I was reminded of these things this past week when a very kind, godly woman whom I have personally met sent the following article for us to publish at A Cry for Justice. Remember now, do not fall prey to the idea that these victims we deal with are merely “unhappy wives who just want to dump their husbands.” No! These are victims of pure evil, people who have known what its prison is like. Victims of death threats and prolonged psychological and emotional terrorism, so often at the hands of an evildoer cloaked as a “fine upstanding Christian” —

God used coupons to set me free!

One of the main reasons women stay in abusive marriages is because they cannot afford to leave. I faced this same problem myself. I desperately wanted to get out and away from my abuser. I had left once before, but made the mistake of believing the lie that he had changed and it was safe to return. The worst part about returning was the fact that now he knew I had the physical and emotional strength to leave, but he still had a way to keep me. He knew I couldn’t leave if I couldn’t afford to go, especially with five children in tow!

God always makes a way though. Through time, prayer and patience He revealed that way to me.

Therefore the LORD waits to be gracious to you, and therefore he exalts himself to show mercy to you. For the LORD is a God of justice; blessed are all those who wait for him. – Isaiah 30:18

I went to the grocery store one day, as I do most days, to pick up a few things we needed. Since I had a large family to feed and a husband that was not working, I had cut out some coupons to help keep the cost down. I was distracted at the store by kids, that were very much in need of a nap, and I forgot to hand the cashier my coupons. She told me that if I took my receipt and coupons to the customer service desk they would take care of it. I did as she suggested and they gave me cash back. It was a small trip, so I only had $12 in coupons, but that $12 was a gift from the Lord and He opened my eyes to my way out.

I continued to shop as I always did, but I would take my coupons to the customer service desk and get cash back. I was always very honest with the coupons (never take advantage of a gift from God! Be patient and He will provide). I took time to plan my meals and such around the coupons I had so I could use the most coupons (and get the most money back). I hid the cash and saved it up. My abuser never knew I was using coupons. To him, I was spending the money on groceries. He could look at the receipt and it all matched up (plus he was enjoying all the new recipes I was coming up with to make the most of the coupons), but I was slowly but steadily saving up to be able to leave.

By the way at that point if she had shared what she was doing to her pastor or to some of the other lades in th church, what would they have told her? “You are deceiving your husband. . . ” 

It did take time, but God worked it all out in His timing. I actually left sooner than I had planned, but God made it all work; not that there weren’t struggles, but He saw me through each one.

I hope that maybe this will be an idea that can help other women make a plan to leave, or maybe just open eyes to see how God does care and will provide a way.

The salvation of the righteous is from the LORD; he is their stronghold in time of trouble. The LORD helps them and delivers them; he delivers them from the wicked and saves them, because they take refuge in him. (Psalm 37:39-40)

Now, this lady’s story of God’s faithfulness to her is encouraging. But I also find it incredibly infuriating, because here we have the story of a sister in Christ suffering at the hands of intense evil that was and continues to parade as “a fine Christian man” who was left on her own to fend for herself in order to get out of that terrible imprisonment. Where was her church back then? She and her children could have been set free much, much earlier. She was in a prison camp and her supposed church was helping her prison master keep her in prison. … [more here in the audio version].

Spiritual Bondage

Over and over again, the Word of God warns us of this enslaving aspect of evil. The thing is absolutely present wherever evil is. Evil kidnaps, imprisons, and presses people into slavery. Jesus Christ sets us free.

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed,” (Luke 4:18)

Very early in the history of the New Testament church, we know that evil came prowling around, working to enslave the ones Christ had set free, setting themselves up as antichrists:

For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery. Look: I, Paul, say to you that if you accept circumcision, Christ will be of no advantage to you. I testify again to every man who accepts circumcision that he is obligated to keep the whole law. You are severed from Christ, you who would be justified by the law; you have fallen away from grace. (Galatians 5:1-4)

These wicked ones came to the churches of Galatia preaching a false gospel, and here was their motive as always:

They make much of you [that’s the flattery], but for no good purpose. They want to shut you out, that you may make much of them. (Gal 4:17)

Do you see what Paul is saying? The evildoers, these false teachers who had crept into the churches with their faith plus works “gospel” were using flattery, but not for a good reason. Their goal in it was to lead the Galatians into worshipping them, or as Paul puts it, “…that you may make much of them.” — So that you serve them.

Evil always, always, always betrays its presence by its goal of enslaving: of kidnapping a freeman and making him a slave. Always. Watch for it and you will be wise.

Here it was at Corinth:

But I am afraid that as the serpent deceived Eve by his cunning [the flattery], your thoughts will be led astray from a sincere and pure devotion to Christ. For if someone comes and proclaims another Jesus than the one we proclaimed, or if you receive a different spirit from the one you received, or if you accept a different gospel from the one you accepted, you put up with it readily enough. (2 Cor 11:3-4)

This is what typically happens if you are naive about evil. You put up with it!  “These guys are great!”

For such men are false apostles, deceitful workmen, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no surprise if his servants, also, disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. Their end will correspond to their deeds. (2 Cor 11:13-15)

For you gladly bear with fools, being wise yourselves! For you bear it if someone makes slaves of you, or devours you, or takes advantage of you, or puts on airs, or strikes you in the face. (2 Cor 11:19-20)

Evil is abusive and its goal in this abuse is to enslave. To rob your freedom. So let’s put this right down where we live.

Whenever you are in the presence of a person or a community of persons where the freedom Christ has given you  — as His own child and as a human being created in His image — is being threatened, you can be certain that you are in the presence of evil. Evil is a kidnapper and an enslaver. The wicked one is the keeper of his dungeon and he is always looking for new prisoners. He charms, he flatters, and then he enslaves. Beware.

This evil can be in the guise of a “marriage,” as we well know by now. It can come in the form of a supposedly “Christian” church or individual. Sometimes evil manifests its lust for power and control on the political scene, and thus the rise of the evil dictators the path of history is littered with. Or more commonly it might be some family member or a fellow worker at the office. The consistent element to always watch for in all of these cases is this lust for power and control, this quality of evil that works to erode our freedom and enslave us.

1 Corinthians 13 — even if a person speaks with the tongues of angels, that doesn’t necessarily mean he is on the right side.  All the polished teaching, all the pious prayers, all the Christian niceties …. but if that person lacks love, watch and beware!  [more here in the audio version]

This is how we watch and stand against the devil who is always prowling, always looking for an opening to strike.  Be wise… Beware of men (Matthew 10:16-17a). 

Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves. Beware of men…. (Mat 10:16-17a)

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21 Comments

  1. Sarah

    I used returns to get cash. Sometimes companies would give me cash back when I returned an item. Also, when I would go out, I would always try to pay for things with my credit card and others would pay me cash for their part for lunches etc

  2. Bitter But Getting Better

    This confirms to me the details of my abusive life that have been revealed to me lately. I’m rereading “Why Does He Do That” and Lundy says repeatedly that victims have a hard time exposing the truth of their abuse to others because the behaviors sometimes don’t seem like abuse, unless you live with them. My unhusband has a hundred little schedules that he follows EVERY DAY and we can not deviate from them. These schedules have enslaved me and made me CRAZY for almost 40 years. He also silently but loudly redoes my chores, showing that I did not do it PROPERLY so then I will become obsessed to do it right the next time but it is never RIGHT. My little mantra that I whisper to myself is the words that should be on my gravestone. “Never good enough”.

    I also worked 11 hours a day for an abusive employer that had all these restrictions on everything. She gave me laundry detergent to wash my clothes with when I was in her employ & I was not allowed to wear ANY kind of fragrance, soap etc., This was just one of a MILLION assaults I had to deal with to keep the job. I finally gave my notice because I could not work all day w/ her & then go home to my unhusband’s assaults. All of these new changes in our world are just as you described, ways to enslave us. Paper bags not plastic, now canvas bags. Water out of the tap is bad and so we all got plastic water bottles with spring water but now the plastic water bottles are bad….It goes on & on. Our diets, what’s good & what’s not it is all so enslaving. There is a new diet every few months that we must all abide by or else we will get diseases. I frankly don’t know what to eat any more!!!!

    This sermon helped me. I won’t go in to how thankful I am because I don’t want to be a flatterer. I am growing stronger with the knowledge I have learned this last year.

    • Anonymous

      “It goes on & on. Our diets, what’s good & what’s not it is all so enslaving. There is a new diet every few months that we must all abide by or else we will get diseases. I frankly don’t know what to eat any more!!!! ”

      And THIS is how they do it–the devil/world–all this insanity keeps THEM from being bored but wears those of us with a conscience down to nothing. And there will be no end to their ways of making us jump, jump, jump.

      I read a story from a holocaust survivor who watched a man being forced to jump until he died. She was watching out of her cell door as the guards told another prisoner to jump and when he didn’t do it or wasn’t fast enough, they would shoot a gun at his feet. They did this for a few hours until the prisoner could no longer physically jump and then they shot him. Then there’s the breast vs. bottle feeding. Back in the 1950’s or 60’s they INSISTED bottled milk was better for the baby and basically lambasted mothers with this, forcing them to comply or be considered bad mothers. Macrobiotic diet, microbiotic diet, no sun, you need sun to process vitamin D plus you get depressed without it blah, blah, blah. blah.

      So here’s how God worked this out in my life. I was like you, always behaving, trying so hard to color within the lines, until God took it all away. He allowed my husband to financially destroy our family and while he was doing this God also showed me what my husband, some of my children, and many in the world, are. He made me so physically tired that I could no longer jump, jump, jump and at this same time I started looking around at others. Why didn’t anyone else feel this need to jump and behave and serve others? How did they still get along? And I started to see that many other people don’t have a conscience which means they don’t have a startle reflex and they also don’t CARE if others think they aren’t good enough. When they do ACT like they are hurrying or trying to please it is only done just enough so as to deceive whoever needs to be deceived at the time. Then once they get the job, get married, have a baby–whatever it is that they were trying to manipulate, they can’t really be bothered, or they do just enough to keep up appearances in order to justify themselves and employ others as witnesses. And guess what? Me, as a fellow human being, has the same “right” to not have to jump, as those humans without a conscience. So I took lessons. And I practiced. I had to teach myself NOT to answer every question asked of me. (This was SUPER hard by the way, after being trained for over forty years to answer EVERY question asked of me IMMEDIATELY.) I refused to fight with my spouse–he told me I was torturing him. (Fighting was a major source of stimulation for the type of psychopath my husband is even though it emotionally and physically destroyed me–he considered it his RIGHT to force me to do it. Others probably prefer sex or drugs.) God also forced me to see that I had needs and desires of my own that were meant to fulfill and satisfy me through the Holy Spirit. It was a very intense seven years or so of boot camp that the Lord put me through, but here’s the thing. The veil has been torn in half and that old dusty thing has been ripped down and thrown away. I am no longer a blind woman who can never come to the truth, I can now see things painfully clear. And the most important thing is that I’ve learned to trust God. I had lived my entire life in fear because of evil ones. During this boot camp there were many days where I felt like I was on the precipice of a gnawing crater and that God was holding me by a cobweb. I would wake up in the morning and immediately lay on my face praying to God to help me, to hold me tightly, to help me get up. I was so terribly shy and so brain-damaged from PTSD that I could barely THINK. And each day he got me through. Each hard thing he helped me with. And now, because it’s been many years that he’s shown me that he can handle it, I know that I can trust him.

      Each of us will have our own unique walk with the Lord because we are each unique and special to him. But we are supposed to give our testimony to others because we never know what God has shown us that was actually meant as a gift for others–to show them that God knew they would need it. So although this is long, I pray that there is something here that you or others can use–you are not alone when you belong to the Lord, and he can handle all of it.

      • Anotheranon

        Oh….so much to think about. My husband enslaved me by not letting me have a job away from home. The farm is 24/ 7. And when you’ve never had a vacation and almost never had a day off your mind is on high alert all the time. ( I once worked 13 years without a day off when my children were small. And it was common to go three or four years at a time without a day off.)

        I too have had to look at others and think “why are they not bothered about every little thing like I am?” I have had to learn to put myself first and to take care of myself. When someone needs something that can wait I have them wait. I used to jump at every little request. Sometimes I have to say no to people. I am not young anymore and cannot work as hard as I used to. Not that I mind hard work, but my body is wearing down.

        I too find it hard to think. I was a top student in my school days but now it seems like it takes days to figure out what to do in situations while other people can quickly decide what action needs to be taken. I feel like I should never make a mistake and I am too hard on myself when I do.

        But God is helping me day by day also. He is patiently leading me. I just have to be aware enough to comprehend what He’s doing for me. Thankfully I have a church with
        many people who support me and have Christian love for me. It is a joy to worship with them.
        Thanks so much Barb and Pastor Jeff and all who contribute to this site. It is a lifeline.

      • Bitter But Getting Better

        Anonymous your comment was awesome. I’m copying & keeping that in my journal. You are a gifted writer. I understand things better with analogies and that one about the Holocaust victim jumping just about broke my heart but is very helpful for me to understand. God has been kindly showing me that I care WAY to much what people think about me. That is my jumping… I am a highly sensitive person to begin with & then add a lifetime of abuse & rejection & presto I am terrified of everyone! (I have a collection of @ least 100 scriptures teaching me to not be afraid of man but I just can’t seem to learn it.)
        Thanks for sharing all this wonderful info. We have travelled along a similar road. Fighting was a major thrill in my unhusband’s (soon to be ex-husband) life. I’ve read it’s part of the narcissist supply that he endlessly craves. My mind also has been so damaged that it’s hard to think & to know what reality is. A false universe has been forced on me all these years.
        I was in a 12 step program for many years just to get support that I never got @ my churches. I do find the sharing of testimonies extremely powerful. Unfortunately I didn’t get as much out of the program as I could have, because whenever they told us to take care of ourselves, I always thought it was un-Christian & selfish.
        Thanks for taking the time to share your heart & journey with me. It was a blessing.

      • standsfortruth

        Thank you Pastor Jeff for continuing to preach the truth.
        It is very validating to hear these messages.
        Also some good anologies here.
        I also referred to my abusive ex as the one who continuously shot bullets at my feet, and exausted me, until I finally understood what was happening and quit jumping.
        I often used the referance of a “mental holocaust” as a description of what I endured durring the decades of that abuse.

    • Anonymous

      In case you haven’t read this post…..https://cryingoutforjustice.com/2014/03/31/wanted-fantasy-wife/

      • Bitter But Getting Better

        Anonymous Thanks,
        To all @ ACFJ, I am signing a lease on a new apartment tomorrow, (God willing) alone & free from my abusive unhusband. 2 years ago I was suicidal and God delivered me. I lived alone for a year & I returned not knowing about the cycle of abuse. I have learned so much this last year, thanks to you all. I realize now, I needed to come back here, as I had no internet for the year & didn’t know about you… Now my heart & mind are so much free-er. I have to share what happened today after I took care of all the necessities to sign the lease tomorrow. I came home here & 150, @ least turkey vultures were all flying in a circle over my apartment. Encircling the corpse that is my 4 decade long marriage. God is a trip…. Blessings to you all. I am going offline again soon & don’t know when I will be back. Hugs & prayers to all of you who have been, as Bette Midler sang years ago, the wind beneath my wings.

        A special thanks to Pastor, Barb & TWBTC you guys are the fulfillment of God’s precious promises. I will pray continuously that God will use you to pluck scores of women like me out of the abyss & set our feet on higher ground!!!!! To Him be all honor & glory!

      • Wow — those turkey vultures!
        Luke 10:37, Matthew 24:28
        And Proverbs 30:17

        The eye that mocks a father
        and scorns to obey a mother
        will be picked out by the ravens of the valley
        and eaten by the vultures.

  3. TheUngodlyWoman

    This is such a powerful message. Evil as unjustified power and control, intent on enslaving ones that Christ has set free. This isn’t just an issue in conservative churches either. Or just in “complementarian” marriages. Evil comes in many different forms and is very good at hiding itself within Church teachings and doctrines. Sometimes it hides in wrongly applied Scripture, sometimes in distorted views of grace and mercy. It is so terrifying to realize how many faithful followers of Christ are enslaved by other “Christians”. Thinking about it makes me feel physically ill.

    • KayE

      That’s all so true. It makes me feel physically ill too.

  4. Bitter But Getting Better

    P.S. Please pray I will have the fortitude to stay away this time?

    • Anotheranon

      I will pray for you BBGB. I have a couple hand-written signs in my house that say “Get Tough!” They help me a lot! I can never consider going back.

      • Bitter But Getting Better

        Anotheranon thanks for the prayers, I’m going to need them. I will make a “Get Tough” sign as soon as I get there. Thanks again!!! Blessings to you.

  5. Mary

    What do you think about peacemaker ministries? Do you think they would be any help in domestic abuse cases?

  6. keeningforthedawn

    Oh, my heart! This one hit so hard. Yes, yes, yes — to the blog as well as the comments. The testimony about the coupons just melted me, reminding me of the goodness of God made manifest in the most desperate of times. Anonymous, your contribution to the discussion was like gold. Bitter, I am already praying for you. The Ungodly Woman, you’re so right, this enslavement extends to so many avenues of the “church”. Until the church wakes up to something as blatant as abuse, then these other avenues will continue to become more toxic as well.

    • Bitter But Getting Better

      Thanks for the prayers Keeningforthedawn!!! God bless you.

      • standsfortruth

        I am also praying for you Bitter but getting better.
        Now that I have been through the divorce process, I can see that the mighty hand of God was with me as I step by step strategized and executed my plan to be free.
        I had many stand-offs with my abuser, in the process of going into and through my divorce.
        There were times that “no reply” from me (or grey rock) was the “best choice” durring that time, to avoid giving him or his allies, any information to hurt me.
        He resented my resolve to free myself,
        but I stood my ground, like Wonder Woman, once I knew it was the right thing to do.
        And God opened door after door for me to walk through to finally find freedom.
        I have to say that I am now in a much better place spiritually, emotionally, physically, and mentally, and have gained new self confidence in the workforce because of that, and I know you will too.

  7. Bitter But Getting Better

    Standsfortruth, How sweet of you to share your experience with me about your divorce. I hope @ the end of this journey I will have attained the strengths you seem to have. Blessings to you!!!

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