Thursday Thought — Feeling Like You’ll Never Get Over This
After enough times of being torn apart by your partner’s cruel side, you can come to feel like nothing could ever put you back together again, and like the pain will never go away.
But it will. You aren’t always going to feel this bad. Healing is a long process, especially when you’ve been harmed by someone you love. But the injured places do grow back together.
One thing that emotional wounds and physical wounds have in common is that they take triply long to heal if you keep getting hurt again in the same spot. So you may not be able to heal well from your partner’s mistreatment of you unless you put emotional distance between yourself and him — and perhaps physical distance as well. Your spirit needs a chance to bounce back. It may be time to put yourself in an environment where healing can happen.
It’s true that some women have to get stronger before they can get out of their relationship, but for other women the opposite is true — they have to get out of their relationship before they can get stronger. Consider which one might be true of you.
[Entry from Lundy Bancroft’s Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?* p213]
***IMPORTANT NOTE: While we endorse Lundy’s writings about the dynamics of domestic abuse, we do not recommend anyone attend the ‘healing retreats’ Lundy Bancroft offers or become involved in his ‘Peak Living Network.’ See our post, ACFJ Does Not Recommend Lundy Bancroft’s Retreats or His New Peak Living Network for more about our concerns.
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