Do I need to forgive my abuser? — a podcast from Church Protect
Abuse survivors always wonder whether they need to forgive their abuser. Do they have to forgive? When should they forgive? Does forgiveness require anything from the abuser? Churches often force victims into forgiving their abuser and some even make it a condition of fellowship. But is this biblical? And what do those same churches require of the abuser? Typically far more is expected (demanded) of the survivor than of the abuser.
Do I need to forgive my abuser? is a podcast from Church Protect which is a consulting ministry that offers the combined expertise and experiences of Jimmy Hinton and Jon Uhler.
Church Protect began as a result of Jimmy Hinton finding out that his father, a former minster, is a pedophile. God allowed Jimmy’s path to intersect with Jon Uhler’s and a partnership was born. Jon has over 20 years of counseling experience working as a clinical therapist: he has worked extensively with survivors of child sex abuse, and has over 10 years of experience working with sex offenders who are in prison.
From the Facebook page of Church Protect:
Jimmy is a full time minister and Jon has theological training as well, making them a great team to help churches combat abuse. As both listen to countless stories of brokenness, humiliation, and shattered innocence, they agree that it is a sin to sit on the sidelines while millions of children are being sexually abused and trafficked each year.
Over 90% of pedophiles identify themselves as religious. This is a huge deal for churches because religious people tend to go to church. In the words of a pedophile, “Churches are the easiest places to offend.” Pedophilia is at epidemic proportions in the church and, sadly, there are few resources for church leaders to combat this plague. With 42 million survivors of child sex abuse in the United States, it is nearly impossible to find a church that doesn’t have victims of abuse. Sadly, most abuse remains undetected. Worse yet, most alleged cases are not reported by church leaders to the authorities and the majority of allegations are dismissed by leaders who don’t know how to detect abuse.
Church Protect is a consulting ministry that offers the combined expertise and experiences of Jon and Jimmy. No longer do church leaders have to guess how to handle difficult situations involving young children who are sexualized in their churches. It’s time we take a stand against abuse and shout, “ENOUGH!”
Listen to Jimmy and Jon discuss what God has to say about forgiveness: Do I need to forgive my abuser?
In the podcast they focus on serial pedophilia — how it manifests in churches, and how churches respond to it — but we think that the same principles apply to the vast majority of spousal abuse.
Jimmy Hinton is the pastor of Somerset Church Of Christ, Pennsylvania
While we agree with the work Church Protect is doing to equip and support churches to prevent and report sexual abuse, we want to caution readers that Church Protect also supports and recommends material by James Dobson, John MacArthur, Focus on the Family, and Family Life Today. We are ACFJ do not recommend teachings and materials from these men and/or organizations as they are harmful to victims of domestic abuse. For more information regarding our concerns see these posts:
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