Am I in a difficult christian marriage or an abusive marriage? — FAQ Highlight
It can be difficult to discern the difference between a difficult marriage and an abusive marriage. Similar behaviors may exist in both situations. It’s important to keep our definition of abuse in mind (see side bar) as an abusive marriage is not defined simply by a list of behaviors, rather there exists in the abuser an underlying mentality of power, control, and entitlement. This mentality will be manifested by common tactics and behaviors.
In our new FAQ page, Am I in a difficult christian marriage or an abusive marriage?, we are providing two checklists to help you evaluate your relationship. One list, Controlling Behavior Checklist, was provided by a victim whose abuser used the list in his domestic violence intervention group. The second list, Controlling Relationship Assessment, was created by author Lisa Aronson Fontes, as a tool to help victims assess their relationship. In our FAQ page links are provided for both. Both lists are PDFs and can be copied for personal use.