One more pastor gets it about domestic abuse! — a guest post by one of our readers
Some time ago, ACFJ shared a link to an open letter to pastors from an abuse survivor. I emailed the link to the pastors of our church. The response from them was positive. In addition, I bought them Why Does He DO That, A Cry for Justice, Unholy Charade, and Not Under Bondage.
When I spoke to the senior pastor a short time after dropping off the books, he told me that someone else had recommended those very books and he was very glad to have them.
Since then, I have noticed during his sermons that he has demonstrated a much greater awareness of the way an abused woman will hear what he is saying. Case in point, this past Sunday he was discussing Psalm 37, with his main point being ‘Trust and Obey.’ At one point he said something about ‘staying put’ rather than running away from adversity or trials, but then he inserted a caveat directed to anyone living in an abusive situation, and stressed that such a person should seek safety. It wasn’t just one sentence thrown in offhand, but it reflected his understanding that a woman living with abuse needed to hear the clarification. I hadn’t realized that I was internally reacting to the “stay put” until he clarified and I felt my gut relax.
When I spoke to him about it today, to thank him and tell him I’ve noticed that he’s been doing that, he said that he hadn’t planned to say that, but when he was talking, he suddenly thought about how an abused woman would hear the instruction to ‘stay put.’ And that was when he inserted the caveat.
He has told me in the past and again told me today that he believes abuse is grounds for divorce. And he specified that he doesn’t only mean physical violence.
I just had to share this story with you because it felt like such a victory. Thanks to you and the materials you provide for us to share, one more pastor gets it!!
God Bless you and may He continue to increase your impact!
We want to thank the author of this post, who is one of our regular readers, for sharing this story! Bless you and your pastor! What a fantastic encouragement this is for us!