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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Monthly Archives: January, 2018

I Let My Husband Rape Me, and Here’s Why… — by Amber Barnhill

I let him abuse me to keep him from abusing me. The problem with fundamentalist Christian culture isn’t that it doesn’t teach rape is wrong, but that it doesn’t know what rape actually is. Fundamentalist Christian culture taught me that if it wasn’t violent or you didn’t cry for help, that wasn’t rape, that was …

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Abusive Endings: Separation and Divorce Violence against Women, by Walter DeKeseredy

We have not read this book but we know it would be good because Walter DeKeseredy is a highly respected social scientist in the field of domestic abuse. Here is the blurb: Abusive Endings offers a thorough analysis of the social-science literature on one of the most significant threats to the health and well-being of women …

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Victims of coercive control are vulnerable, but. . .

Victims of coercive control are vulnerable, but not because they are weak, character-deficient, or mentally unwell.  They are vulnerable because they have been groomed. The impact of the control on the victim is devastating. She exists in a constant state of fear that she has not moderated her behaviour sufficiently to avert catastrophe for herself …

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My favorite R.C. Sproul quote — a reblog from Tried With Fire

While we remain adamant that R. C. Sproul was negligent in not informing the public that he had changed his mind on divorce for abuse (see here) we nevertheless still recommend the parts of his teaching which were sound theology and good doctrine. We know that many of our readers are either unaware or have …

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Mumpsimus – a traditional notion that is obstinately held although it is unreasonable

Yes this is a real word!  Mumpsimus: A traditional notion that is obstinately held although it is unreasonable. A person who obstinately adheres to old ways in spite of clear evidence that they are wrong; an ignorant and bigoted opponent of reform. An obvious error that is obstinately repeated despite correction. According to Wikipedia… Mumpsimus refers …

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When Ps Jason Meyer mutualized the blame in domestic abuse

In a video posted by Bethlehem Baptist Church, Pastor Jason Meyer introduced Pastor Chris Moles’ presentation on domestic abuse at Bethlehem Baptist Church. Meyer explained headship and submission and he gave an example of how he counseled an ‘insensitive husband’. Meyer told the husband, “You’re tearing each other apart”. By saying ‘each other’ Jason Meyer …

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