The one flesh covenant and divorce. In domestic abuse, divorce is NOT the worse possible outcome
The one flesh covenant is often broken in this fallen world:— A grievously mistreats B by a pattern of conduct or by one instance of adultery and thereby A breaks the one flesh covenant. Then B is free to divorce because the covenant is already broken.
#notmysin is a good hashtag for victims who divorce their abusers
Marriage between a man & a woman is a bi-lateral covenant. In contrast to this, Christ’s marriage to the church is a uni-lateral covenant. God keeps all the conditions of that covenant; believers simply receive its benefits by grace.
Telling an abused spouse to keep all the conditions of the marriage covenant while the abusive spouse has *broken* those conditions is #SpiritualAbuse.
It prolongs and intensifies the suffering of victims of abuse.
It binds them in a cage of false guilt.
In domestic abuse, divorce is NOT the worse possible outcome. The worst possible outcome is that the abused person is murdered by the abuser, or the abused person takes their own life, or the abused person & their kids have to go on being exposed to the predations of the abuser.
@madamoiselleQ asserts that “Once we make an exit available to marriage, we are affirming that there are things that God can’t do.”
That’s not true.
God is soveign. He could regenerate an abuser and bring him to total repentance & reformation. But abusers typically resist God.
All examples which folks like #PaigePatterson & @mademoiselleQ cite, of abusers becoming genuine Christians and renouncing their mentality of entitlement, are bunkum. It’s just abusers doing snowjobs on church leaders and counselors.
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