A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Author Archive: Barbara Roberts

“Redemptive Divorce” by Mark Gaither — another bad book for domestic abuse

Redemptive Divorce by Mark Gaither is marketed on Amazon with this blurb: A graceful, biblical way to reclaim sanity for the home and dignity for the suffering spouse in a dysfunctional or dangerous marriage. Thousands of conscientious believers wanting to honor the sacred vows they took before God suffer in dysfunctional, even dangerous marriages. Each …

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The PCA’s Position Paper on Divorce is dangerous for abuse victims

The PCA’s Position Paper on Divorce and Remarriage suggests that only physical violence is grounds for divorce. And it assumes that marriage problems are mutually caused so both parties are partly at fault if the marriage is in difficulties. What’s more, although the Position Paper — which came out in 1992 — says that an abused spouse …

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Up to 1/3 of relationships that end fatally have no history of violence

As there were no bruises, she never felt it was something she could take to the police. She left the family home following a breakdown in the couple’s marriage. A few days later, her abusive husband shot and killed her and their daughter outside the local swimming pool. Then he turned the weapon on himself. …

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Do I need to forgive my abuser? — a podcast from Church Protect

Abuse survivors always wonder whether they need to forgive their abuser. Do they have to forgive? When should they forgive? Does forgiveness require anything from the abuser? Churches often force victims into forgiving their abuser and some even make it a condition of fellowship. But is this biblical? And what do those same churches require of …

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Finding a good counselor

Finding a counselor who is competent to counsel victims of abuse can be quite challenging. Some counselors have a good understanding of domestic abuse but many do not. Catherine DeLoach Lewis is a Christian counselor who was untrained in domestic abuse until—by the providence of God—she woke up. We interviewed her on this blog and she said: I began my …

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The abuser’s word salad & weird language when he’s working hard at resisting taking responsibility

When the abuser is pulling out all stops to show that he is right and you/others are wrong, his language sometimes becomes a little weird.  I have observed this kind of poor English in the language of many men who abuse their wives. (However, some abusive men are so well educated and verbally skilled that they can …

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