A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Author Archive: deborahmom

Keeping Our Children Safe

As survivors of abuse, and parents who must share access of our children with our abusers, it is critically important to talk to them about protecting themselves from sexual abuse. Why? Because according to research, studies indicate that a batterer is about four to six times more likely than a non-batterer to sexually abuse his …

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Why Aren’t You And Daddy Married Anymore?

  “Mommy, why can’t you and Daddy be together anymore?” “Why did you leave Daddy?” All of us survivors who have kids have been, or know we will soon be, faced with these questions. So how should we handle that? Many experts on divorce say you should never say anything bad about the other parent, …

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The Effects Of Disabilities On Women Trapped In Abuse

The nightmare of abuse leaves you feeling helpless, hopeless and trapped. Psychologically, you are a prisoner. Too afraid to leave, but afraid of what will happen if you stay. We all know this. Now imagine for a second that you couldn’t go. I don’t mean the psychological barriers we all face in leaving. I mean …

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Encouragement and Insights for Wives of Pastors Who are Abusers

UPDATE: Monday 1 September 10:00PM US Pacific Time We have changed the title of this post and modified it so it is not aimed at any particular person, and we have edited out from the comments thread the names and identifying details of the particular persons which the original post named. We have taken this step …

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Teaching Children The Ten Commandments Of Character

God has really been working on me lately, showing me that I need to step up and be more intentional with countering the abuse in my kid’s lives. I have been reading through tons of books on abuse, trying to glean what I can from them, to help guide my children through the gauntlet of …

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This Thing Called Healing

I can’t take criticism. After a lifetime of abuse, the smallest critique sends me either running to the bathroom to cry or coming out with both fists flailing, trying desperately to fend off attacks. All I hear is yet again how bad I am, how messed up I am, how selfish, stubborn and hard-headed I …

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