A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Category Archives: Abusers

Up to 1/3 of relationships that end fatally have no history of violence

As there were no bruises, she never felt it was something she could take to the police. She left the family home following a breakdown in the couple’s marriage. A few days later, her abusive husband shot and killed her and their daughter outside the local swimming pool. Then he turned the weapon on himself. …

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Why We Need to be Done with Unsafe People as Soon as Possible

The wicked, like the abusers we have all confronted, are like black holes who suck life and energy out of us. Why? Because when we are in the presence of an abuser we must be on guard at all times. The soul of the wicked desires evil; his neighbor finds no mercy in his eyes. …

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The abuser’s word salad & weird language when he’s working hard at resisting taking responsibility

When the abuser is pulling out all stops to show that he is right and you/others are wrong, his language sometimes becomes a little weird.  I have observed this kind of poor English in the language of many men who abuse their wives. (However, some abusive men are so well educated and verbally skilled that they can …

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Red Flags indicating a victim is at high risk of being killed or almost killed by her abuser

This infographic comes from DVRCV (Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria, Australia). It highlights the factors that put family violence victims at increased risk of being killed or seriously injured. These risk factors have been ascertained by research that looked at the backstory of lethal and near-lethal cases of domestic violence. The infographic can be downloaded as a …

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Thursday Thought — Is animal abuse an indicator of domestic violence?

The rates of co-occurrence between domestic violence and animal abuse reported varied between 25% and 86%. Furthermore, children who were abused, exposed to domestic violence, or animal abuse were at risk of developing criminal behavior. [Excerpt from the abstract of ‘The connection between animal abuse and interpersonal violence: A review from the veterinary perspective.” Science …

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What Does the Devil Look Like? Getting Wise to the Abuser’s Victim-Playing Schemes

One of the most frequent tactics used by the worst abuser I have ever had to deal with was that of playing the victim. And it was more than that. He would put on a facial expression that had successfully “worked” for him all his life, gaining him people’s sympathy. At other times he would …

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