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Category Archives: Abusers

Truth Torments the Wicked: Insight into an Abuser’s Mind and the Real Nature of His Tears

The Son of Man will send his angels, and they will gather out of his kingdom all causes of sin and all law-breakers, and throw them into the fiery furnace. In that place there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth. (Matthew 13:41-42) …and in Hades, being in torment, he lifted up his eyes and …

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Why Does He do That? – The Fundamental Motivation of the Abuser

For this is the message that you have heard from the beginning, that we should love one another. We should not be like Cain, who was of the evil one and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his own deeds were evil and his brother’s righteous. Do not be surprised, brothers, …

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A Common Tactic of Abusers is to Try to Alienate the Victim’s Allies

“I understand that you are giving _______ counsel and I want to talk to you.” I have received that kind of message many times over the past few years. A message on our church answering machine. An email. A note. I never answer these messages because I know what they are about. They are attempts …

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Thursday Thought — How can I tell Whom to Trust?

When deciding whom to trust, bear in mind that the combination of consistently bad or egregiously inadequate behavior with frequent plays for your pity is as close to a warning mark on a conscienceless person’s forehead as you will ever be given.  A person whose behavior includes both of these features is not necessarily a …

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A Sure Sign of a Bully or Abuser: the Gnashing of Teeth

Now when they heard these things they were enraged, and they ground their teeth at him. (Acts 7:54) Recently I was reminded still once more of how the wicked react when their evil is exposed and they are called to account. The fangs come out. The bullying begins. They are like vicious, wild animals snapping …

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The Worst Abusers are the Kind Who Parade as Christian Leaders

“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (1 Timothy 5:8) He premeditates his actions. He uses people and every thing he can get as an alibi to cover or justify his actions. He is the …

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