A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Category Archives: Abusers

She nags me! – what the abuser means when he says that

“She nags me” means she presses me to accept my responsibilities. If you ask an abuser to fulfil his responsibilities, you are not being controlling. You are not abusing the perpetrator when you ask him to accept his responsibilities. You are being a reasonable adult human being. You are simply calling on him to be …

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Power impairs the neural process of mirroring which leads to hubris & lack of empathy.

Power Causes Brain Damage explains how leaders lose mental capacities—most notably the capacity for reading other people. The article is by Jerry Useem from The Atlantic. Here are some excerpts from the article. If power were a prescription drug, it would come with a long list of known side effects. It can intoxicate. It can corrupt. But can it …

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A letter of confession which a victim would really want to receive

If only Andy Savage had written this to Jules Woodson, but he didn’t. This fictional letter is what Dr Julia Dahl thinks Andy Savage should have written to Jules. Although it’s only a made-up letter, I believe our readers will find it helpful in their own journey of recovery. While reading it I felt how …

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Survivors and DV professionals describe domestic abuse and red flags (Don Hennessy series part 10)

Every survivor’s story can encourage and empower other survivors of abuse. Victims feel they are not so alone when they hear the raw, real accounts from other survivors. Three survivors of domestic abuse told their stories to Ray D’Arcy who is an Irish radio show presenter. Ray D’Arcy then sought comment from Don Hennessy and …

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Videos of Don Hennessy and other Irish DV professionals (Don Hennessy series part 9)

The real question is, “How do men get a woman to go back into an abusive relationship or to stay in an abusive relationship?” Here are three documentary videos made by Gerard Lough (10 mins each) which feature Irish experts in domestic abuse. They were made in 2007. The speakers: Don Hennessy (Director, National Domestic Violence …

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Re-offending: the increasingly dangerous culminating phase in male intimate abuse (Don Hennessy series part 6)

The skilled offender becomes progressively more abusive the longer he maintains control over his target woman. This is a truth universally acknowledged by those who have professional or long-term personal experience in the dynamics of domestic abuse. For their hearts are like an oven As they approach their plotting; Their anger smolders all night, In the morning it …

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