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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Category Archives: Children & extended family

One Son’s Journey to Seeing the Truth about his Abusive Father

Children, teens, and adult children often have problems due to domestic abuse. Sometimes the kids blame the protective (non-abusive) parent. Sometimes they feel their life is wrecked because their parents divorced. Quite often the abusive parent turns the kids against the abused parent. Children can model themselves on the abuser, which abusers often encourage as it makes …

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A Story of Lifelong Abuse by a Narcissistic Parent — And the Path to Freedom

Here is the life story of one of our readers whose abuser has been, and remains, her mother. As we know, abusers/sociopaths/narcissists can effect their evil in other arenas besides a marriage. We greatly appreciate this lady’s willingness to share her story, heartache, and path to freedom with us in the hope that others will …

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Keeping Our Children Safe

As survivors of abuse, and parents who must share access of our children with our abusers, it is critically important to talk to them about protecting themselves from sexual abuse. Why? Because according to research, studies indicate that a batterer is about four to six times more likely than a non-batterer to sexually abuse his …

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You will NOT talk to ME that way

In an emergency situation recently, I tried urgently to get help from a person in authority. The response to the situation stunned me. The authority figure yelled, “You will NOT talk to ME that way. You WILL straighten up and speak to ME with respect.” Later, I was ruminating on the conversation and his phrasing. Why …

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Code Word Safety — a way to handle some dilemmas kids have on visitation

Sharing custody with an abuser can be such a nightmare. Too often there is undermining, overt or subtle threats, silence that is always pregnant with fear and the unspoken understanding that nothing is as it seems. Living with this means you and your children have to continually find ways to stay safe; to stay one step ahead …

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The Dog and the Rabbit: Helping children understand domestic abuse

One of our readers put this story in a comment she left on our post, Why aren’t you and Daddy married anymore?  She wrote this story for her grandkids when their mom left her abuser. We felt that it’s a wonderful way to help children understand the complex circumstances surrounding domestic abuse, so we put it in …

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