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Category Archives: spiritual abuse

Firsthand Witness to the Thinking of an Abusive Youth Pastor

ACFJ is regularly contacted by the wives of abusers who are pastors or missionaries. The thing is incredible, but true. Here stands a man in the pulpit or in some pastoral ministry in a church, admired by the flock, thought to be the holiest of the holy, a model husband and father. That is the …

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One of the Worst Letters We Have Seen From a Pastor to an Abuse Victim

I think this is one of the most cruel letters from a pastor to an abuse victim that I have seen. While it is very similar in ways to others I have read, it is remarkably deceptive in a number of ways. The “love” words it uses. The selective and dishonest quotes it lays on …

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My Defense Against the Public Attack by Bethlehem Baptist Church — a reblog from Natalie

Natalie, who blogs at Emotional Abuse Survivor (formerly called Visionary Womanhood), has described the ongoing spiritual abuse that she is suffering from the elders at the church she and her soon-to-be-ex husband were attending.  She posted it on her Facebook page and with her permission we are sharing it with you. My Defense Against the Public Attack by Bethlehem Baptist Church  …

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Untwisting Scriptures – An Excellent New Book by Rebecca Davis

Our friend and ally Rebecca Davis has just published a new book, Untwisting Scriptures that were used to tie you up, gag you, and tangle your mind. [affiliate link*]  We asked her to put together a description of it for us to post here at ACFJ. So here is her book. I (JeffC) have read …

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The “gall of bitterness” in Acts — it isn’t resentment, by Rebecca Davis

Bitterness is often a term used to shame and blame victims of abuse who are seeking help from their churches.  This post is second in a series addressing the concept of bitterness in the Bible and what it really means in context.  The first post in this series addressed the root of bitterness in Hebrews, explaining …

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The “root of bitterness” in Hebrews — it isn’t unforgiveness – by Rebecca Davis

The following excellent article was written by our friend Rebecca Davis. She originally published it on her blog at Here’s the Joy but it was then moved to BJUGrace. To maximize the exposure of the article with Rebecca’s permission we are also posting it here for you. Here is a perfect example of how Scripture is horribly …

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