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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Category Archives: Victims

When victims don’t look like victims: women burdened with sins and led astray by various passions

I work as a biblical counselor and have met many women who are in abusive relationships, physical and/or emotional. Usually women that finally seek counseling are ready to make a decision about whether to stay with the abuser or break away from a long-term domestic violence situation. Sometimes the woman’s guilt and self-condemnation has deterred …

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Another abuser grooms, deceives, marries and abuses her. DyingStar’s story Part 2

Many thanks to our friend Dying Star for sharing more of her story. You can read the first part of her story here. She is writing as you can see in a historical present tense. Trigger warning. I am 22 years old. I am going through a divorce from my first abusive marriage when I meet my …

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The woman at the well—was she unprincipled, wanton, lustful and promiscuous?

This imaginary monologue presents an alternative view of the life of the woman at the well before she met Jesus: The Woman at the Well: A Monologue.  It pictures the Samaritan woman’s encounter with the Jesus at the well with more compassion and empathy than you will hear in in most sermons and teachings on John …

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I Have Really Bad Dreams – Is This Normal for Abuse Victims?

We were recently asked this very important question and thought it would be an excellent subject for a blog post and discussion. After all, I suspect that this is a pretty common experience after the trauma of abuse. Dreams. Nightmares. Am I going crazy? That sort of thing. Sometimes I have really bad dreams. Last …

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The Abuser Hooked her in Bible College, deceived her, married her, abused her: Dying Star’s story Part 1

She was a genuine Christian honestly wanting to serve the Lord, only to have her nightmare begin in a place she thought would surely be safe. This is part one of three parts in which “Dying Star” will tell us all the stories of how abusers deceived her. I don’t know it yet, but I’m about to enter …

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Thursday Thought — Judge Actions, Not Intentions

Never try to “mind-read” or second-guess why somebody is doing something, especially when they’re doing something hurtful.  There’s no way for you to really know, and in the end, it’s irrelevant.  Getting caught up in what might be going on in an aggressor’s mind is a good way to get sidetracked from the really pertinent …

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