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Category Archives: Victims

Thursday Thought — Judge Actions, Not Intentions

Never try to “mind-read” or second-guess why somebody is doing something, especially when they’re doing something hurtful.  There’s no way for you to really know, and in the end, it’s irrelevant.  Getting caught up in what might be going on in an aggressor’s mind is a good way to get sidetracked from the really pertinent …

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I Have Married three Abusers — Am I Stupid?

The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I will not be thirsty or have to come here to draw water.” Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.” The woman answered him, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You are right in saying, ‘I have …

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An open letter to a well-meaning but ill-advised Christian friend on the subject of my separation

I realize your message was sent in love and with the best of intentions. I’m so sorry you have suffered as well. But you need to understand a few things. Yes, I am changed. I am deeply traumatized. But only through this separation and fighting for myself (and not tip-toeing around a sinful man) have …

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One crazy-making ally-obtaining tactic of an abuser: simultaneous scorn and imitation

Our thanks to Rebecca Davis for submitting this post. It was written with the permission of the abuse survivor whose story it is. *** When Lydia was young she was very creative, and the other girls at school liked to copy her creative ideas. She didn’t like being copied, but her mother assured her, “Imitation …

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The Exodus of Survivors

“I’m no longer a slave to fear, I am a child of God.” One reason people remain enslaved to domestic abuse is fear. With every reason to fear, we remain at the mercy of an abuser. Or so we think. For those in Christ, this is a tremendous deception. We are no longer at anyone’s …

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Thursday Thought — 2equal1: a ‘ministry’ to avoid

Recently one of our Facebook readers told us of the horrific experience she had with 2equal1 Marriage Ministries.  Her personal contact with the Australian directors revealed that they are not only ignorant as to the mentality and tactics of abusers but they twist and distort biblical scriptures and doctrines. We wanted our readership to know that …

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