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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Category Archives: Victims

A Letter to the Church – The Things I Couldn’t Tell You

If thou forbear to deliver them that are drawn unto death, and those that are ready to be slain; If thou sayest, Behold, we knew it not; doth not he that pondereth the heart consider it? and he that keepeth thy soul, doth not he know it? and shall not he render to every man …

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All the things I didn’t tell you — a guest post

You may have wondered, “How could that marriage have ended? They seemed so sweet. So together. So loving.”  We made a pretty picture. Gaggle of adorable children. Serious Christians. Dedicated to our faith and family. Oh yes. When I left, you thought I was just giving him a wake-up call, probably. You understand that. Husbands …

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Let The Church Be The Church Again – a reblog from Lori Anne Thompson

Let The Church be The Church again. Let it be the dream it was meant to be. Let it be where the people come who are in pain, Seeking a safe place where they themselves can be.   (The Church was never The Church to me…)   Let The Church be the family that the …

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For the Kingdom! – A survivor of domestic abuse tells her story

There was an unhealthy dynamic in our marriage. But generosity, forbearance and patience are not sins, while unkindness, unjust accusations, lies and selfishness are. This guest post is by our reader ‘Gaining Momentum’. Many thanks to her for writing it. This feels like it’s been a long time coming – writing down what I want …

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“Marinated in trauma” – generational transmission of trauma. Diane Langberg & Phil Monroe

When a person’s life is marinated in trauma, that has profound effects on the individual. When a  connected group of people is systemically traumatized (such as the Jews in the holocaust) studies show this has negative effects down several generations. And what if a whole society is systemically traumatizing some of its members? The three …

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Sleeping with the enemy… and being ‘one flesh’ with an abuser who sexually assaults children

“It’s like the abuser’s evil was shared with me and in a sense I became one with it.” The sexual intimacy a woman has with her husband means that they are ‘one flesh’ — whatever that phrase means.  Trigger warning. For me, the pollution of an abuser having sexual intercourse with me affected me to …

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