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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Category Archives: Victims

The Abuser Hooked her in Bible College, deceived her, married her, abused her: Dying Star’s story Part 1

She was a genuine Christian honestly wanting to serve the Lord, only to have her nightmare begin in a place she thought would surely be safe. This is part one of three parts in which “Dying Star” will tell us all the stories of how abusers deceived her. I don’t know it yet, but I’m about to enter …

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Thursday Thought — Judge Actions, Not Intentions

Never try to “mind-read” or second-guess why somebody is doing something, especially when they’re doing something hurtful.  There’s no way for you to really know, and in the end, it’s irrelevant.  Getting caught up in what might be going on in an aggressor’s mind is a good way to get sidetracked from the really pertinent …

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Thursday Thought — Why Did So Many People Side with Him?

On some days the following thoughts may rattle around inside your head:  “Okay, I can kind of see his friends backing him up, because they only hear his side of the story.  And some of them are kind of like him anyhow — that’s why they’re friends with him.  But why have people I trusted …

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I Have Married three Abusers — Am I Stupid?

The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I will not be thirsty or have to come here to draw water.” Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.” The woman answered him, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You are right in saying, ‘I have …

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An open letter to a well-meaning but ill-advised Christian friend on the subject of my separation

I realize your message was sent in love and with the best of intentions. I’m so sorry you have suffered as well. But you need to understand a few things. Yes, I am changed. I am deeply traumatized. But only through this separation and fighting for myself (and not tip-toeing around a sinful man) have …

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One crazy-making ally-obtaining tactic of an abuser: simultaneous scorn and imitation

Our thanks to Rebecca Davis for submitting this post. It was written with the permission of the abuse survivor whose story it is. *** When Lydia was young she was very creative, and the other girls at school liked to copy her creative ideas. She didn’t like being copied, but her mother assured her, “Imitation …

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