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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Category Archives: Victims

Patrick’s Story of being abused by his wife

The abuse I suffered was a product of dominance, but the gender roles were switched. My wife was older, had a dominant personality and was used to getting her own way. I was a quiet and sensitive person from a loud, working-class area and used to being bullied. Our relationship had sprung out of that …

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Shattering the silence: James’s Story of growing up with an abusive father

I think it’s crucial to highlight the myriad stories of church domestic abuse, including the impacts such abuse can have on children. My first memory of violence is of being dragged to my room by my panicked mother, who wanted my siblings and me — I was very young — to be quiet before my …

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Undiminished — a guest post

A thesaurus tells my story… I read a sentence today that literally jumped off the page at me. I am just me, undiminished in size or power. I kept reading it over and over. It was like I was seeing myself in a mirror for the first time in years. I was recognizing the true me for …

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#churchtoo Raped, tracked, humiliated: Clergy wives speak out about domestic violence

Women who were married to abusive priests and pastors are for the first time revealing their experiences of sexual assault, control and fear. They say the church has known for decades that some clergy abuse their wives but has done very little to fix the ongoing problem. Raped, tracked, humiliated: Clergy wives speak out about …

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When victims don’t look like victims: women burdened with sins and led astray by various passions

I work as a biblical counselor and have met many women who are in abusive relationships, physical and/or emotional. Usually women that finally seek counseling are ready to make a decision about whether to stay with the abuser or break away from a long-term domestic violence situation. Sometimes the woman’s guilt and self-condemnation has deterred …

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Another abuser grooms, deceives, marries and abuses her. DyingStar’s story Part 2

Many thanks to our friend Dying Star for sharing more of her story. You can read the first part of her story here. She is writing as you can see in a historical present tense. Trigger warning. I am 22 years old. I am going through a divorce from my first abusive marriage when I meet my …

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