Is my abuser’s mental illness causing him to be abusive?
Key points about abusers and mental illness from the above post:
- Domestic abuse is not, at core, a psychologically driven problem.
- Abuse is culturally driven: it is learned and confirmed by socialisation.
- Batterers, psychologically speaking — from the point of view of their mental health, how their emotional worlds work, how much they express their emotions, how much they suffer pain, how distorted their perceptions are — do not distinctly differ from non-battering men, on average.
- There is no psychological test that exists that will distinguish a battering man from a non-battering man. Battering is not a psychological problem, it’s a problem of learned behavior, values and attitudes.
- Psychological testing by the Family Court in a domestic violence case is a MISTAKE. It is not going to tell you anything relevant about whether the allegations of abuse are true of false, or if they are true (because they are almost always true) are they really serious or less serious, how risky is this particular man for this child.