While most of the recommended books and online resources are from a Christian perspective, some of our resources are from secular sources. We include these resources as we know them to contain accurate information and sound advice.
If you want to recommend a resource (e.g. a book, link, or video) please send the recommendation to TWBTC (the woman behind the curtain) at firstname.lastname@example.org. If you submit a comment recommending a resource your comment is likely to be held in moderation for some time. Due to time constraints, the ACFJ team may not be able to check out the resource you have recommended, and we are hesitant to recommend any resource that we have not checked out. Here is a post that further explains why we don’t always publish links or Resources our Readers suggest via comments.
All pastors and anyone who intends to give counsel to people who come to you asking for help with an abusive marriage, should read the following books (in addition to A Cry for Justice, Unholy Charade, and Not Under Bondage, of course!) When you do so, you will find yourself becoming more and more able to recognize the mentality and tactics of the abuser and to know when you are talking to a victim of abuse. Also, you will have learned how to help the victim and how to avoid being duped by or enabling the abuser.
In addition to our recommended books, we have many links to online resources. These resources have been organized under the following 20 categories. Click on a category and you will be taken to its corresponding list. The resources are listed alphabetically. Where appropriate, an online resource may be listed in several of the pages below. NOTE: Some of these links provide contact information for specific counselors (such as the RAVE link listed under domestic violence agencies in the USA). This does not mean that ACFJ personally knows each of these counselors. As you read here at ACFJ and learn more about abuse, apply what you are learning to a counselor should you contact one. If something does not feel right to you, we encourage you to trust your judgment in evaluating a counselor or resource.