Family and Friends
This site discusses how to manage exchanges with “high conflict people” but it does not consider the degree of high conflict we mostly deal with on this blog. Their advice really isn’t geared toward the difficulties of dealing with the average conscience-deficient evil abuser — evil people who know what they are doing and why they are doing it and whose purpose is control and dominance.
They are mostly about non-abusers who are socially challenged in some way and so become difficult. However, that does not mean what they have to say is not valuable or would not be helpful for some situations our readers may be dealing with. Some of what they say can be helpful for abuse victims, especially the article on responding to emails.
They have a section on high conflict people at work and a ton of stuff on divorce. We are not sure their divorce stuff is all that helpful for domestic abuse situations, though. And one of their suggestions would be contraindicated in dealing with abusers: what they call the E.A.R. method, which is give Empathy (we are already lost right there), Attention, and Respect. Noooooo……
So readers, when you visit this site, just bear these caveats in mind.
A site for teenagers and young people who have been exposed to domestic abuse. [Note: not a Christian site]
“Fred et marie” is a video produced by Bonjour, Inc. It is in French, but there are English subtitles. This video does an excellent job of portraying coercive control, entrapment, social abuse & isolation, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, threats of physical violence… and the profound fear which all this induces in the victim. It also shows poor bystander responses. TRIGGER WARNING: This video is 15 minutes in length and will almost certainly trigger some, so please be prepared.
An excellent 34 page PDF resource from Calgary Women’s Emergency Shelter. (Note: the link to the pdf will take you to a page at the Calgary Women’s Shelter website. You will need to scroll to the bottom of the page and then download the pdf for the whole publication.) And their booklet Choosing to Change: A Handbook for Men concerned about their abusive behavior toward those they love – may be helpful for abusers who want to change.
This booklet can be downloaded in several different languages.
Safe Steps 4Children
by Family Violence Response Centre. An interactive website for children who are in domestic abuse and may be going into a refuge or shelter.
Safe Steps 4 YOUth
by Family Violence Response Centre. An interactive website for teens who are in domestic abuse and may be going into a refuge or shelter.
by Barbara Roberts
May be useful for those who are feeling overwhelmed from supporting victims of abuse
This articles defines and describes the term family scapegoat.