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Neutrality is not neutral

With domestic abuse, it’s not okay for pastors to take a neutral stance vis a vis perpetrator and victim. The church ought to fully support victims while holding perpetrators accountable. Pastors: if you take the neutral stance, you effectively become an ally of the abuser.  It means you are taking the view that both parties are …

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Twisted Theology Produces a Den of Abusers Parading as “the church”

With remarkable frequency we meet abuse victims, mostly Christians, who originally met their abuser in a local church. Or in a Christian college or similar setting. In the church! Why? How can this be? Well, the answer is not only that abusers are exceptionally deceptive, but churches far and wide have embraced such unsound, twisted …

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Look Out for People Who Demand Personal Attention – A Common Sign of an Abuser

Then the disciples came and said to him, “Do you know that the Pharisees were offended when they heard this saying?” He answered, “Every plant that my heavenly Father has not planted will be rooted up. Let them alone; they are blind guides. And if the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a …

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A Common Accusation by Abusers to Victims: “You Cannot Keep Friends”

For he grew up before him like a young plant, and like a root out of dry ground; he had no form or majesty that we should look at him, and no beauty that we should desire him. He was despised and rejected by men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief; and as …

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What Can We Say About Allies of the Abuser?

An evildoer listens to wicked lips, and a liar gives ear to a mischievous tongue. (Proverbs 17:4) An appalling and horrible thing has happened in the land: the prophets prophesy falsely, and the priests rule at their direction; my people love to have it so, but what will you do when the end comes? (Jeremiah …

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Bruce Ware teaches that a wife’s lack of submission threatens her husband’s authority, and he responds to this threat by abusing her (ERAS part 3)

Here is what Bruce Ware teaches — When women challenge their husband’s authority by wanting to have their own way rather than submitting to their husbands, one of the ways husbands respond to that ‘threat to their authority’ is by becoming abusive. Ware explains male-on-female domestic abuse as follows: Wives threaten their husbands’ authority by not submitting to them, and husbands respond …

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