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Truth Torments the Wicked: Insight into an Abuser’s Mind and the Real Nature of His Tears

The Son of Man will send his angels, and they will gather out of his kingdom all causes of sin and all law-breakers, and throw them into the fiery furnace. In that place there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth. (Matthew 13:41-42) …and in Hades, being in torment, he lifted up his eyes and …

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Why Does He do That? – The Fundamental Motivation of the Abuser

For this is the message that you have heard from the beginning, that we should love one another. We should not be like Cain, who was of the evil one and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his own deeds were evil and his brother’s righteous. Do not be surprised, brothers, …

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The Worst Abusers are the Kind Who Parade as Christian Leaders

“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (1 Timothy 5:8) He premeditates his actions. He uses people and every thing he can get as an alibi to cover or justify his actions. He is the …

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Thursday Thought — Judge Actions, Not Intentions

Never try to “mind-read” or second-guess why somebody is doing something, especially when they’re doing something hurtful.  There’s no way for you to really know, and in the end, it’s irrelevant.  Getting caught up in what might be going on in an aggressor’s mind is a good way to get sidetracked from the really pertinent …

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How Many Sins Are Required to Demonstrate that a “Christian” is not a Christian? – ONE!

How can you know if a person who claims to be a Christian, isn’t? Does it take years of watching and testing and waiting? Nope. Not at all. Here you go: Whoever says he is in the light and hates his brother is still in darkness. Whoever loves his brother abides in the light, and …

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Thursday Thought — The Cycle of Abuse

In his book, Unholy Charade:Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church, [affiliate link*] Pastor Crippen describes each phase of the cycle of abuse.  Understanding each phase and how they work in sequence may help victims be able to avoid or lessen the confusion that abusers want to create. The buy-back Some people call this the ‘normal’ …

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