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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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What is Abuse & What is the Christian Response? — by Latina Leaders Leaving Legacy

Is there someone in your life who belittles you or who makes you feel like you can never do anything right? Is this abusive? Is someone in your life being aggressive with you? Is this abusive? To understand the signs that there is an abusive person in your life and how should you react as …

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She nags me! – what the abuser means when he says that

“She nags me” means she presses me to accept my responsibilities. If you ask an abuser to fulfil his responsibilities, you are not being controlling. You are not abusing the perpetrator when you ask him to accept his responsibilities. You are being a reasonable adult human being. You are simply calling on him to be …

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8. Should biblical counselors put lots of energy into helping abusive men see their sins?

It is wise to work on the assumption that the abuser knows what he did knows it was wrong knows he’s making false accusations about his target. How do we know that abusers know they are doing wrong? Abusers know they are doing wrong because they hide from the public the wrong things they do. …

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The Bible has one law for unintentional sin, and another law for intentional sin

The Bible makes a distinction between unintentional sin and intentional sin. This is important when we consider how we, as Christians, are to respond to domestic abusers. The distinction is set out in the Law which Moses gave to the people of Israel. Numbers 15:22-31, NKJ – Laws Concerning Unintentional Sin If you sin unintentionally, and do …

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5. Chris Moles sometimes endorses the abuser’s narrative

Chris Moles uses some wording that can endorse the abuser’s narrative. I will give three examples of this. Chris’s language permits the abuser to evade responsibility for his wrong choices. Chris wrote a blog post aimed at abusive men – ‘Telling The Truth To Yourself’ (T*). In that post he used some language that in my view …

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2. Chris Moles is teaching some things about domestic abuse well

Here are the helpful things Chris Moles is saying to the visible church: He has a pretty good definition of domestic abuse. He dispels some of the myths about domestic abuse. He describes the tactics used by abusive men. He understands the impact on children. He gives some good advice to pastors and counselors. He …

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