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Woman as Owned Property —A Prevailing Mentality in the Church

I have mentioned in past articles that I have known professing Christian men (and women who have bought into it) who really believe that a wife is the husband’s property. Owned. He sees his children that way too, even when they grow up. His. Mine. Holds the title deed to them. One such man — …

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Wisdom in Dealing With an Abuser — Realize Everything he Says or Does is Evil

Frequently abuse victims will send me correspondence from their abuser and ask what I think of what the abuser said. My answer is always the same because the words are always the same. “This is evil. Every word, every phrase, every nuance is loaded with accusation, minimization, deception, threat, self-pity, and more.” And this is …

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Firsthand Witness to the Thinking of an Abusive Youth Pastor

ACFJ is regularly contacted by the wives of abusers who are pastors or missionaries. The thing is incredible, but true. Here stands a man in the pulpit or in some pastoral ministry in a church, admired by the flock, thought to be the holiest of the holy, a model husband and father. That is the …

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Dear Church: Stop Trying To Convert Wolves — by Jimmy Hinton

There was a recent article published at The Gospel Coalition titled Beware of Broken Wolves. While I [Jimmy Hinton*] appreciate the notion that we need to beware of wolves, this idea that wolves are broken is something that has permeated the church and has no biblical basis. We have spoken to dozens of churches in …

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The Abuser’s Goal – A Master/Slave Relationship

But just as at that time he who was born according to the flesh persecuted him who was born according to the Spirit, so also it is now. But what does the Scripture say? “Cast out the slave woman and her son, for the son of the slave woman shall not inherit with the son …

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A Remarkably Insightful and Accurate Description of the Deceptive Evil of Abusers

The following incredibly descriptive comment was submitted to the blog by TB in response to the article “The Patriarchal Father as Idol God.”  We are making it a stand alone blog post to highlight it to our readers. Many, many thanks to TB for sharing and blessings on her. I had followed a religion loosely …

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