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He is Just the Nicest Man I’ve Ever Met — Beware the Abuser’s Charm

The sins of some people are conspicuous, going before them to judgment, but the sins of others appear later. So also good works are conspicuous, and even those that are not cannot remain hidden. (1 Timothy 5:24-25) One of the important things we do here at ACFJ is to keep saying certain fundamentals over and …

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A Trap You Do Not Want to Get Caught in – Pitying the Abuser

If your brother, the son of your mother, or your son or your daughter or the wife you embrace or your friend who is as your own soul entices you secretly, saying, ‘Let us go and serve other gods,’ which neither you nor your fathers have known, some of the gods of the peoples who …

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Up to 1/3 of relationships that end fatally have no history of violence

As there were no bruises, she never felt it was something she could take to the police. She left the family home following a breakdown in the couple’s marriage. A few days later, her abusive husband shot and killed her and their daughter outside the local swimming pool. Then he turned the weapon on himself. …

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Do I need to forgive my abuser? — a podcast from Church Protect

Abuse survivors always wonder whether they need to forgive their abuser. Do they have to forgive? When should they forgive? Does forgiveness require anything from the abuser? Churches often force victims into forgiving their abuser and some even make it a condition of fellowship. But is this biblical? And what do those same churches require of …

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The Abuser Hooked her in Bible College, deceived her, married her, abused her: Dying Star’s story Part 1

She was a genuine Christian honestly wanting to serve the Lord, only to have her nightmare begin in a place she thought would surely be safe. This is part one of three parts in which “Dying Star” will tell us all the stories of how abusers deceived her. I don’t know it yet, but I’m about to enter …

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You Weren’t There — a letter to pastors from a survivor of domestic abuse

Dear Pastor James (and any other pastor who will listen), You said to me in your letter, “it is about you and John learning to understand one another.” LISTEN. Please, for once, stop talking. Stop spouting parts of Scripture passages and trite “Christian” expressions. Stop trying to fix this. Stop trying to fight for “marriage” above …

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