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Examples of Victim-Blaming played out in Everyday Scenarios

Victim-blaming is an all too common tactic of abusers.  Huffington Post recently posted an article that featured victim-blaming logic using three one-minute videos.   As you will see it’s not very logical! This Is How Victim-Baming Logic would play out in Everyday Scenarios Each video depicts an ordinary setting in which one character uses victim-blaming …

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Am I in a difficult christian marriage or an abusive marriage? — FAQ Highlight

It can be difficult to discern the difference between a difficult marriage and an abusive marriage. Similar behaviors may exist in both situations.  It’s important to keep our definition of abuse in mind (see side bar) as an abusive marriage is not defined simply by a list of behaviors, rather there exists in the abuser …

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Wicked Men Within the Covenant Community — sermon by Ps Sam Powell

Sam Powell’s sermon, Wicked Men Within the Covenant Community, explains some truths that are very helpful for victims of abuse: if we confess our sins to our abusers, they use that as more ammunition with which to abuse us. Abusers falsely accuse victims of sins we have not done. Abusers and their father the devil love …

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Another Look at the Abuser as Reviler

How long, O God, is the foe to scoff? Is the enemy to revile your name forever? (Psalms 74:10) “Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. (Matthew 5:11) But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone …

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Another abuser grooms, deceives, marries and abuses her. DyingStar’s story Part 2

Many thanks to our friend Dying Star for sharing more of her story. You can read the first part of her story here. She is writing as you can see in a historical present tense. Trigger warning. I am 22 years old. I am going through a divorce from my first abusive marriage when I meet my …

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Coercive Control: a recommended three part series

We recommend this three part post series about Coercive Control at domesticshelters.org, with the following caveat: We do not agree with the last sentence of Part 2 which says: Abusive and controlling men are so dependent on their intimate partners, they often believe they will die without them. Like Dr George Simon Jr, we think …

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