A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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I would love to reconcile with my dad. But I need to see repentance.

I grew up in a Christian home. I should clarify, my mother’s faith was always an inspiration to me, but all I saw with my father’s so-called faith was hypocrisy and using the Bible as a weapon against others. Then one day, my mother came to me weeping over my father’s actions towards her. She …

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10. Victim care is vital – Chris Moles & other biblical counselors are falling short in this

Victim safety and wellbeing must be the fundamental guiding principle if you are counseling  abusive men or doing anything to hold them accountable and call them to reform. It’s vital to put victim safety and wellbeing first. Any person or agency that works with abusive men must see the victim (not the abuser) as their real …

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8. Should biblical counselors put lots of energy into helping abusive men see their sins?

It is wise to work on the assumption that the abuser knows what he did knows it was wrong knows he’s making false accusations about his target. How do we know that abusers know they are doing wrong? Abusers know they are doing wrong because they hide from the public the wrong things they do. …

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3. Chris Moles gets the gender issues right in domestic abuse & Christianity

I honor Chris Moles for how he deals with the gender issues in domestic abuse. Here are five good things he says on gender and gender differences. 1. He says that men are much less likely than women to live in fear. He rightly points out that a man can do certain behaviors to his …

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2. Chris Moles is teaching some things about domestic abuse well

Here are the helpful things Chris Moles is saying to the visible church: He has a pretty good definition of domestic abuse. He dispels some of the myths about domestic abuse. He describes the tactics used by abusive men. He understands the impact on children. He gives some good advice to pastors and counselors. He …

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A Letter to the Church – The Things I Couldn’t Tell You

If thou forbear to deliver them that are drawn unto death, and those that are ready to be slain; If thou sayest, Behold, we knew it not; doth not he that pondereth the heart consider it? and he that keepeth thy soul, doth not he know it? and shall not he render to every man …

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