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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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Do I need to forgive my abuser? — a podcast from Church Protect

Abuse survivors always wonder whether they need to forgive their abuser. Do they have to forgive? When should they forgive? Does forgiveness require anything from the abuser? Churches often force victims into forgiving their abuser and some even make it a condition of fellowship. But is this biblical? And what do those same churches require of …

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The Abuser Hooked her in Bible College, deceived her, married her, abused her: Dying Star’s story Part 1

She was a genuine Christian honestly wanting to serve the Lord, only to have her nightmare begin in a place she thought would surely be safe. This is part one of three parts in which “Dying Star” will tell us all the stories of how abusers deceived her. I don’t know it yet, but I’m about to enter …

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You Weren’t There — a letter to pastors from a survivor of domestic abuse

Dear Pastor James (and any other pastor who will listen), You said to me in your letter, “it is about you and John learning to understand one another.” LISTEN. Please, for once, stop talking. Stop spouting parts of Scripture passages and trite “Christian” expressions. Stop trying to fix this. Stop trying to fight for “marriage” above …

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Dear Church: Stop Trying To Convert Wolves — by Jimmy Hinton, from ChurchProtect.org

There was a recent article published at The Gospel Coalition titled Beware of Broken Wolves. While I [Jimmy Hinton*] appreciate the notion that we need to beware of wolves, this idea that wolves are broken is something that has permeated the church and has no biblical basis. We have spoken to dozens of churches in …

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Red Flags indicating a victim is at high risk of being killed or almost killed by her abuser

This infographic comes from DVRCV (Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria, Australia). It highlights the factors that put family violence victims at increased risk of being killed or seriously injured. These risk factors have been ascertained by research that looked at the backstory of lethal and near-lethal cases of domestic violence. The infographic can be downloaded as a …

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Thursday Thought — Is animal abuse an indicator of domestic violence?

The rates of co-occurrence between domestic violence and animal abuse reported varied between 25% and 86%. Furthermore, children who were abused, exposed to domestic violence, or animal abuse were at risk of developing criminal behavior. [Excerpt from the abstract of ‘The connection between animal abuse and interpersonal violence: A review from the veterinary perspective.” Science …

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