A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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Response to my detractors and apology to ACFJ followers I’ve hurt

Transcript of video I want to thank all the people who have encouraged me and given me fair criticism over the last few weeks. I have really appreciated your emails, phone calls, messages and comments.¹  In the last few months I’ve been helping several victims of abuse get safe from serious abuse. And at the …

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Female healthcare workers experience domestic abuse at higher rates than the general female population

Nearly half of female healthcare workers have experienced domestic abuse, Australian study finds A landmark investigation into female healthcare staff in Australia has found nearly half have experienced domestic violence, including one in 10 who had been abused by their partner in the past year alone. The study, published in the BMC Women’s Health journal, …

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She nags me! – what the abuser means when he says that

“She nags me” means she presses me to accept my responsibilities. If you ask an abuser to fulfil his responsibilities, you are not being controlling. You are not abusing the perpetrator when you ask him to accept his responsibilities. You are being a reasonable adult human being. You are simply calling on him to be …

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I would love to reconcile with my dad. But I need to see repentance.

I grew up in a Christian home. I should clarify, my mother’s faith was always an inspiration to me, but all I saw with my father’s so-called faith was hypocrisy and using the Bible as a weapon against others. Then one day, my mother came to me weeping over my father’s actions towards her. She …

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10. Victim care is vital – Chris Moles & other biblical counselors are falling short in this

Victim safety and wellbeing must be the fundamental guiding principle if you are counseling  abusive men or doing anything to hold them accountable and call them to reform. It’s vital to put victim safety and wellbeing first. Any person or agency that works with abusive men must see the victim (not the abuser) as their real …

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8. Should biblical counselors put lots of energy into helping abusive men see their sins?

It is wise to work on the assumption that the abuser knows what he did knows it was wrong knows he’s making false accusations about his target. How do we know that abusers know they are doing wrong? Abusers know they are doing wrong because they hide from the public the wrong things they do. …

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