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The male domestic abuser is a ‘psychephile’ – a sexual offender (Don Hennessy series part 4)

We all know that pedophiles target children for sexualized abuse. Don Hennessy coined the word psychephile for the man who abuses his intimate female partner. A psychephile targets the psyche of the woman he has selected as his target for a long term intimate relationship. Hennessy used the word psychephile in order to emphasise that …

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How the male intimate abuser selects, sets-up & grooms a target woman (Don Hennessy series part 3)

The man who is abusing his long-term female partner has honed the skills required to select a target woman and then set her up, target her and groom her, in order to be able to offend against her with impunity and then re-groom her… so he can re-offend against her. That is what Don Hennessy …

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“How He Gets Into Her Head” — an introduction to Don Hennessy’s book

Nearly four decades ago, Don Hennessy was working in the Irish city of Cork at the Cork Marriage Counselling Centre. They identified domestic violence as the underlying issue for about 30% of their clients. It was identified as a pattern of abusive and violent behaviour that allowed the offender to control his intimate partner. Thus …

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Don Hennessy says domestic abusers are like pedophiles — and there’s not much proof they’re redeemable.

He’s your ideal man and your worst nightmare.  Men who abuse women tend to go through a subtle but ultimately dramatic transformation that leaves their partner desperately searching for the person he was at the start of their relationship and blaming herself for losing him along the way. “They are extremely clever people,” says Don …

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Position, Position, Position — Why the Habitual Liar Lies

using the example of Ben Ferguson’s interview with #AndySavage #churchtoo #silenceisnotspiritual A political candidate was confronted by reporters regarding something she had said during a speech. She denied saying it. So the reporters showed her the tape. She watched the tape and watched herself say it. She then looked back to the reporters and they …

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I Let My Husband Rape Me, and Here’s Why… — by Amber Barnhill

I let him abuse me to keep him from abusing me. The problem with fundamentalist Christian culture isn’t that it doesn’t teach rape is wrong, but that it doesn’t know what rape actually is. Fundamentalist Christian culture taught me that if it wasn’t violent or you didn’t cry for help, that wasn’t rape, that was …

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