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Is Leaving Room for the Vengeance of the Lord a Get out of Jail Free Card for the Wicked?

Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says …

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A Victim-Silencing Abuser-Protecting Tactic of the Wicked – “An Evil ‘Pious’ Silence”

Let not those rejoice over me who are wrongfully my foes, and let not those wink the eye who hate me without cause. For they do not speak peace, but against those who are quiet in the land they devise words of deceit. (Psalm 35:19-20) As we have written in other posts, it is very characteristic of …

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Don’t Get Sucked in by the “Hoovering” Vacuum of the Abuser

Abraham said to him, “See to it that you do not take my son back there. (Gen 24:6) A “Hoover” is a metaphor taken from the popular brand of vacuum cleaners, to describe how an abuse victim (trying to assert her own rights by leaving or limiting contact in a dysfunctional relationship), gets “sucked back …

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Thursday Thought — The Cycle of Abuse

In his book, Unholy Charade:Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church, [affiliate link*] Pastor Crippen describes each phase of the cycle of abuse.  Understanding each phase and how they work in sequence may help victims be able to avoid or lessen the confusion that abusers want to create. The buy-back Some people call this the ‘normal’ …

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How the Threat of God’s Wrath is Used to Silence Abuse Victims

In following the story of Marie Notcheva over at Wartburg Watch, I read the following comment by a “friend” of Marie’s on Facebook. I decided to highlight this comment here in a post because THIS tactic of threatening God’s wrath for exposing evil in a church is really rather common. Here is what this “friend” had to …

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Lundy Bancroft Webinars — starting March 1

URGENT: Lundy Bancroft will be participating in a series of webinars titled after his book, Why Does He Do That?  Inside the minds of angry and controlling men.  Early bird offer closes tomorrow, 5th Feb. Sorry for the late notice. Below is information about the webinars and how one can register for them. **** Webinar: …

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