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The First Church of Keilah – A ‘Church’ that Hands Victims Over to the Abuser

This story came to my mind today as I was thinking about how local churches so often essentially hand over an abuse victim to her abuser – Now they told David, “Behold, the Philistines are fighting against Keilah and are robbing the threshing floors.” Therefore David inquired of the LORD, “Shall I go and attack …

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Snakes and Wisdom (a reblog from My Only Comfort by Ps Sam Powell)

I [Pastor Sam Powell] read an anecdote some years back. You can find it here. Anyway, it goes something like this. A man was drinking with his buddies at a local pub. On his way home, he and his buddies decided that they needed to find a snake to put in the aquarium at their pub. …

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Thursday Thought — Abuse: Cancer or the common cold

The misdiagnosis is deadly. If a doctor diagnosed cancer as the common cold, he would likely be sued for malpractice. When counselors misdiagnose an abusive marriage as simply requiring a higher level of commitment by the abuse target…they generally seem to refuse to admit error and stand by their original misdiagnosis of “if only you …

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How Abusers Camouflage Their Attacks – an analogy that cyclists will identify with

You give your mouth free rein for evil, and your tongue frames deceit. (Psalms 50:19) A lying tongue hates its victims, and a flattering mouth works ruin. (Proverbs 26:28) Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy. (Proverbs 27:6) I have been riding my bicycle for exercise the last …

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Thursday Thought — The Endless Chase

Jane’s description of a “cat chasing a laser pointer guided by a sociopath” nails it as she describes the exhaustion and frustration of working against abuse.   I think one of the hallmarks of working against abuse ESPECIALLY within the contentedly patriarchal church is how utterly exhausting and frustrating it is. It’s like being a cat …

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Thursday Thought — Sand at the Beach

From our Allegories, Analogies, and Fairy Tales page: When victims of abuse eventually leave their abusers, they almost always say “I stayed too long. I wasted too much time trying to work on myself, trying to respond in a ‘better’ way to the situation. But the abuser chose to keep on abusing regardless of what I …

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