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Some biblical counselors deride the work we do – a story from one of our readers

My “biblical counselors” made me confess to all my “sins” (things I might have done to make him mad; things I might have done to “make” him abuse me)… out loud… to them… Then they smiled at me and asked if now didn’t I feel better. But I was even more miserable! I wept and …

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Harmful Counsel Harming Women Is A Church Problem – reblog by Rachael Starke

Paige Patterson’s approach to applying Scripture to the subject of divorce is one that leaders in other, equally broad streams of conservative evangelicalism use. E.g. Heath Lambert, recent president of ACBC, the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors. Many thanks to Rachael Starke for allowing us to republish her post. Go here to read it at her …

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For the Kingdom! – A survivor of domestic abuse tells her story

There was an unhealthy dynamic in our marriage. But generosity, forbearance and patience are not sins, while unkindness, unjust accusations, lies and selfishness are. This guest post is by our reader ‘Gaining Momentum’. Many thanks to her for writing it. This feels like it’s been a long time coming – writing down what I want …

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If God put you together you’re not allowed to separate — says Dr. Heath Lambert, Executive Director of ACBC

It seems that the biblical counseling world has latched on to the topic of domestic violence. Just this last summer IBCD (Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship) devoted part of their 2017 Summer Conference to the topic of domestic abuse. And in 2018 there are several conferences scheduled that will address domestic abuse: the Faith …

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Another abuser-enabling, victim-enslaving book: Jim Newheiser’s  “Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage”

Pastor Jim Newheiser has simply rehashed the same old enslaving party lines about marriage that evangelicals have been regurgitating like a cow chewing its cud. If I had a way of putting a visual here of me shaking my head while muttering to myself, I would. Because that is what I am doing as I …

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Finding a good counselor

Finding a counselor who is competent to counsel victims of abuse can be quite challenging. Some counselors have a good understanding of domestic abuse but many do not. Catherine DeLoach Lewis is a Christian counselor who was untrained in domestic abuse until—by the providence of God—she woke up. We interviewed her on this blog and she said: I began my …

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