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Don’t Get Sucked in by the “Hoovering” Vacuum of the Abuser

Abraham said to him, “See to it that you do not take my son back there. (Gen 24:6) A “Hoover” is a metaphor taken from the popular brand of vacuum cleaners, to describe how an abuse victim (trying to assert her own rights by leaving or limiting contact in a dysfunctional relationship), gets “sucked back …

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Count on it — Abusers Will Always Violate a Boundary

Abusers will ALWAYS chafe at boundaries. They may abide by those limits for a time, but only because they have no choice. And the first time they see some kind of opening that, in their thinking, justifies them crossing the line, off they go. Here is a narrative from the Old Testament which illustrates this. The …

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An open letter to a well-meaning but ill-advised Christian friend on the subject of my separation

I realize your message was sent in love and with the best of intentions. I’m so sorry you have suffered as well. But you need to understand a few things. Yes, I am changed. I am deeply traumatized. But only through this separation and fighting for myself (and not tip-toeing around a sinful man) have …

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What to Say When Setting Up Boundaries (a reblog from Give Her Wings)

Setting boundaries can be especially called for over the Christmas period when family gatherings and end-of-year parties are happening. Our friend Megan C shares some good suggestions for words to use when you want to state your boundaries. *** When you are learning of your intrinsic worth as a child of God, created in His image, here are some …

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“Choosing Him All Over Again” by Juana Mikels — reviewed by Avid Reader

We have slightly condensed this book review. Full version here on Amazon. UPSIDE DOWN It takes a tremendous amount of courage to open up about very private life experiences. That’s what Juana Mikels does so well in this book. You feel like you’re having a cup of coffee with her as she takes you through her …

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Look Out for People Who Demand Personal Attention – A Common Sign of an Abuser

Then the disciples came and said to him, “Do you know that the Pharisees were offended when they heard this saying?” He answered, “Every plant that my heavenly Father has not planted will be rooted up. Let them alone; they are blind guides. And if the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a …

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