A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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When the Wheels of Church Justice Move Like a Snail, it is a Sign of Injustice

Have you had the sad experience of being involved in church “courts” in the process of getting free of your abuser? Numbers of denominations have intricate court systems set up (I am thinking particularly of Presbyterians here) in which it can take months and months or even year upon year to obtain a ruling. And …

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One of the Worst Letters We Have Seen From a Pastor to an Abuse Victim

I think this is one of the most cruel letters from a pastor to an abuse victim that I have seen. While it is very similar in ways to others I have read, it is remarkably deceptive in a number of ways. The “love” words it uses. The selective and dishonest quotes it lays on …

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What Does the Devil Look Like? Getting Wise to the Abuser’s Victim-Playing Schemes

One of the most frequent tactics used by the worst abuser I have ever had to deal with was that of playing the victim. And it was more than that. He would put on a facial expression that had successfully “worked” for him all his life, gaining him people’s sympathy. At other times he would …

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Don’t Listen to these Lies — Expose them with the Truth of God’s Word

I am not going to say anything new in this post. You have all heard it before. But we need to hear it, before, now, and again and again. An abuse victim who has been targeted not only by her abuser, but by her family members, by her pastor, by the pastor’s wife (I need …

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Standing Against Abuse Requires the Making of Enemies

But the Pharisees went out and conspired against him, how to destroy him. (Matthew 12:14) If a person’s intent is to remain popular with everyone, especially with all the leaders of the visible church, then following Christ, standing against evil (especially evil hiding behind religion), and exposing abusers is most certainly not possible for them. …

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How Fear Perpetuates Itself in a Climate of Fear and Enables Evil. Example: bullying in ARBCA

A thousand shall flee at the threat of one; at the threat of five you shall flee, till you are left like a flagstaff on the top of a mountain, like a signal on a hill. (Isa 30:17) One man of you puts to flight a thousand, since it is the LORD your God who …

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