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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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Snakes, spiders and pit bulls

Imagine if pit bull terriers and poisonous snakes and spiders were commonly used as companion animals. Imagine if they were common in homes, schools, nursing homes, churches and missionary organizations. And now imagine that a skilled animal-handler found a way to train pit bulls, snakes and spiders so that a few of them did not …

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10. Victim care is vital – Chris Moles & other biblical counselors are falling short in this

Victim safety and wellbeing must be the fundamental guiding principle if you are counseling  abusive men or doing anything to hold them accountable and call them to reform. It’s vital to put victim safety and wellbeing first. Any person or agency that works with abusive men must see the victim (not the abuser) as their real …

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5. Chris Moles sometimes endorses the abuser’s narrative

Chris Moles uses some wording that can endorse the abuser’s narrative. I will give three examples of this. Chris’s language permits the abuser to evade responsibility for his wrong choices. Chris wrote a blog post aimed at abusive men – ‘Telling The Truth To Yourself’ (T*). In that post he used some language that in my view …

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3. Chris Moles gets the gender issues right in domestic abuse & Christianity

I honor Chris Moles for how he deals with the gender issues in domestic abuse. Here are five good things he says on gender and gender differences. 1. He says that men are much less likely than women to live in fear. He rightly points out that a man can do certain behaviors to his …

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A Letter to the Church – The Things I Couldn’t Tell You

If thou forbear to deliver them that are drawn unto death, and those that are ready to be slain; If thou sayest, Behold, we knew it not; doth not he that pondereth the heart consider it? and he that keepeth thy soul, doth not he know it? and shall not he render to every man …

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A sure sign of an unsafe church is when it says abuse victims may not separate or divorce without permission from the church leaders

A Sure Sign a Church’s Claim to be a Friend of Abuse Victims is False – a reblog from Jeff Crippen’s site Light for Dark Times.   [ACFJ have given it a slightly different title; we trust Jeff doesn’t mind.] Currently, we are seeing churches and organizations jumping on the band wagon of supposedly exposing domestic and sexual …

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