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A Common Tactic of Abusers is to Try to Alienate the Victim’s Allies

“I understand that you are giving _______ counsel and I want to talk to you.” I have received that kind of message many times over the past few years. A message on our church answering machine. An email. A note. I never answer these messages because I know what they are about. They are attempts …

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We must be done with Harlequin or Mills & Boon romance notions of love

I (Jeff) have never read a romance novel, but I have watched a few movies of that genre—the Jane Austen type I suppose. Austen’s novels are way better than the pulp romance novels because she exposes more than one wicked character: she depicts how people can get duped by the wicked, and how they can resist …

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The Worst Abusers are the Kind Who Parade as Christian Leaders

“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (1 Timothy 5:8) He premeditates his actions. He uses people and every thing he can get as an alibi to cover or justify his actions. He is the …

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How Many Sins Are Required to Demonstrate that a “Christian” is not a Christian? – ONE!

How can you know if a person who claims to be a Christian, isn’t? Does it take years of watching and testing and waiting? Nope. Not at all. Here you go: Whoever says he is in the light and hates his brother is still in darkness. Whoever loves his brother abides in the light, and …

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Don’t Get Sucked in by the “Hoovering” Vacuum of the Abuser

Abraham said to him, “See to it that you do not take my son back there. (Gen 24:6) A “Hoover” is a metaphor taken from the popular brand of vacuum cleaners, to describe how an abuse victim (trying to assert her own rights by leaving or limiting contact in a dysfunctional relationship), gets “sucked back …

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How the Threat of God’s Wrath is Used to Silence Abuse Victims

In following the story of Marie Notcheva over at Wartburg Watch, I read the following comment by a “friend” of Marie’s on Facebook. I decided to highlight this comment here in a post because THIS tactic of threatening God’s wrath for exposing evil in a church is really rather common. Here is what this “friend” had to …

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