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Patrick’s Story of being abused by his wife

The abuse I suffered was a product of dominance, but the gender roles were switched. My wife was older, had a dominant personality and was used to getting her own way. I was a quiet and sensitive person from a loud, working-class area and used to being bullied. Our relationship had sprung out of that …

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Survivor’s story in response to Texas church shooting — a guest post

While driving about this morning, I listened to a radio interview about the shooter who killed and hurt people in a church in Texas. It turns out this man had a history of domestic abuse that the military forgot to report onto his permanent record. This error made it possible for him to continue to purchase …

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FAQ Highlight — If I tell people about my husband’s abusive behavior, am I gossiping?

“When a victim starts disclosing what the abuser has been doing and asks for help, abusers and their allies commonly accuse the victim of gossiping. Abusers want their evil to remain in the darkness. Evil loves darkness. The gossip charge is made to support the cloak of secrecy and to shut victims up. If you …

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Thursday Thought — On Violence, Resistance, and Power in Language by Dr. Allan Wade

At a conference in Sweden, Dr. Allan Wade discusses social responses. In particular in this short video clip he touches on how people who have been abused may be further traumatized by the negative social responses they receive from ‘helping’ professionals, authority figures, family, friends and neighbours.  Very often, the social responses an abused person receives from …

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Thursday Thought — Where to Get Help When Everyone Sides with Him

Sometimes it just becomes too painful to keep trying to get the people around you to see the truth.  When people are impressed with your partner and convinced that he’s a great person, your efforts to get them to see won’t always work.  They don’t want to believe they idolized a false icon, so it’s …

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Thursday Thought — Truth is Not Always ‘Nice’ but it is Necessary

I have written something to the church, but Diotrephes, who likes to put himself first, does not acknowledge our authority.  So if I come, I will bring up what he is doing, talking wicked nonsense against us.  And not content with that, he refuses to welcome brothers, and also stops those who want to and …

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