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“Redemptive Divorce” by Mark Gaither — another bad book for domestic abuse

Redemptive Divorce by Mark Gaither is marketed on Amazon with this blurb: A graceful, biblical way to reclaim sanity for the home and dignity for the suffering spouse in a dysfunctional or dangerous marriage. Thousands of conscientious believers wanting to honor the sacred vows they took before God suffer in dysfunctional, even dangerous marriages. Each …

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The PCA’s Position Paper on Divorce is dangerous for abuse victims

The PCA’s Position Paper on Divorce and Remarriage suggests that only physical violence is grounds for divorce. And it assumes that marriage problems are mutually caused so both parties are partly at fault if the marriage is in difficulties. What’s more, although the Position Paper — which came out in 1992 — says that an abused spouse …

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The Hungarian Christians of 1562 Had More Sense than the No-Divorce-for-Abuse Preachers Today

Does an abuser disturb the conscience of his victim? Does the abuser live in a constantly unquiet, peace-destroying manner? Recently Barbara sent me a four volume set compiled by James T. Dennison, Jr. entitled Reformed Confessions of the 16th and 17th Centuries in English Translation. I have been skimming through them to see what they …

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Gary Thomas’s book “Sacred Marriage” — a review by Avid Reader

Gary Thomas, the author of Sacred Marriage, recently wrote on his blog about how the church needs to protect women from abuse. There was a flood of responses from people. One lady directly confronted him for how, “I endured abuse for way too long because of your teachings.” Gary responded to her by writing, “I …

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The Pastor’s Wife — An All too Frequent Ally of the Abuser

I thought that if I went to my pastor’s wife and told her what was really going on in my marriage, she would certainly understand and help me. After all, she is a woman too. There are godly women married to pastors. My wife is one. This post is in no way intended to be a blanket …

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Why We Need to be Done with Unsafe People as Soon as Possible

The wicked, like the abusers we have all confronted, are like black holes who suck life and energy out of us. Why? Because when we are in the presence of an abuser we must be on guard at all times. The soul of the wicked desires evil; his neighbor finds no mercy in his eyes. …

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