A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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The PCA’s Position Paper on Divorce is dangerous for abuse victims

The PCA’s Position Paper on Divorce and Remarriage suggests that only physical violence is grounds for divorce. And it assumes that marriage problems are mutually caused so both parties are partly at fault if the marriage is in difficulties. What’s more, although the Position Paper — which came out in 1992 — says that an abused spouse …

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You Weren’t There — a letter to pastors from a survivor of domestic abuse

Dear Pastor James (and any other pastor who will listen), You said to me in your letter, “it is about you and John learning to understand one another.” LISTEN. Please, for once, stop talking. Stop spouting parts of Scripture passages and trite “Christian” expressions. Stop trying to fix this. Stop trying to fight for “marriage” above …

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JUSTICE: a poem by a woman who was sexually, emotionally, mentally & spiritually abused

This poem was sent to Barb by a woman who was sexually, emotionally, mentally and spiritually abused by her pastor. When (a few of) his sins were exposed, all he got was a slap on the wrist by the “denominational council” and a whole year of free counseling for himself and for his marriage. Here is what …

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My Defense Against the Public Attack by Bethlehem Baptist Church — a reblog from Natalie

Natalie, who blogs at Emotional Abuse Survivor (formerly called Visionary Womanhood), has described the ongoing spiritual abuse that she is suffering from the elders at the church she and her soon-to-be-ex husband were attending.  She posted it on her Facebook page and with her permission we are sharing it with you. My Defense Against the Public Attack by Bethlehem Baptist Church  …

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TRUE things I wish I’d been taught

I don’t have a relationship with most of my adult children. This wasn’t supposed to happen.  If I followed all the rules and sacrificed my life for my family I was told that I would be enjoying the fruits of my labor and that society would benefit from them as well. Lies, lies, and more …

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An open letter to a well-meaning but ill-advised Christian friend on the subject of my separation

I realize your message was sent in love and with the best of intentions. I’m so sorry you have suffered as well. But you need to understand a few things. Yes, I am changed. I am deeply traumatized. But only through this separation and fighting for myself (and not tip-toeing around a sinful man) have …

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