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Examples of Victim-Blaming played out in Everyday Scenarios

Victim-blaming is an all too common tactic of abusers.  Huffington Post recently posted an article that featured victim-blaming logic using three one-minute videos.   As you will see it’s not very logical! This Is How Victim-Baming Logic would play out in Everyday Scenarios Each video depicts an ordinary setting in which one character uses victim-blaming …

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Another Look at the Abuser as Reviler

How long, O God, is the foe to scoff? Is the enemy to revile your name forever? (Psalms 74:10) “Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. (Matthew 5:11) But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone …

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Study Bible Notes are Not Scripture – A Case Study in the CSB Study Bible

We must handle “study Bibles” very carefully, always remembering that the notes and articles are not the Word of God. The following article appears in the Holman Christian Standard Bible, Study Bible edition and it is also in the newer edition, the CSB, published by Holman in 2017.   The article convinced me that I …

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Wisdom in Dealing With an Abuser — Realize Everything he Says or Does is Evil

Frequently abuse victims will send me correspondence from their abuser and ask what I think of what the abuser said. My answer is always the same because the words are always the same. “This is evil. Every word, every phrase, every nuance is loaded with accusation, minimization, deception, threat, self-pity, and more.” And this is …

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Church Leaders and Authors are Violating God’s Instruction About Matters of Conscience

As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions. One person believes he may eat anything, while the weak person eats only vegetables. Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who …

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The Abuser Hooked her in Bible College, deceived her, married her, abused her: Dying Star’s story Part 1

She was a genuine Christian honestly wanting to serve the Lord, only to have her nightmare begin in a place she thought would surely be safe. This is part one of three parts in which “Dying Star” will tell us all the stories of how abusers deceived her. I don’t know it yet, but I’m about to enter …

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