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The one flesh covenant and divorce. In domestic abuse, divorce is NOT the worse possible outcome

The one flesh covenant is often broken in this fallen world:— A grievously mistreats B by a pattern of conduct or by one instance of adultery and thereby A breaks the one flesh covenant. Then B is free to divorce because the covenant is already broken. #ChurchDV #Churchtoo #notmysin is a good hashtag for victims …

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For the Kingdom! – A survivor of domestic abuse tells her story

There was an unhealthy dynamic in our marriage. But generosity, forbearance and patience are not sins, while unkindness, unjust accusations, lies and selfishness are. This guest post is by our reader ‘Gaining Momentum’. Many thanks to her for writing it. This feels like it’s been a long time coming – writing down what I want …

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Steps to Freedom: Escaping Intimate Control – Don Hennessy’s new book (DH Digest part 12)

Don Hennessy’s book Steps to Freedom: Escaping Intimate Control is different from most ‘sympathy’ and ‘support’ books which rely on the target woman to protect herself. Instead it talks directly to the target woman while she is being controlled and hopes to give her the permission and the skills to protect her mind and her soul. …

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I Let My Husband Rape Me, and Here’s Why… — by Amber Barnhill

I let him abuse me to keep him from abusing me. The problem with fundamentalist Christian culture isn’t that it doesn’t teach rape is wrong, but that it doesn’t know what rape actually is. Fundamentalist Christian culture taught me that if it wasn’t violent or you didn’t cry for help, that wasn’t rape, that was …

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A Typical Line by an Abuser — “I Just Don’t Know Why She Left Me”

Recently we have been watching the reality series “Life Below Zero.”  One of the couples featured in the episodes is a clear example of an abuser and victim — Andy (abuser) and Kate (victim). If you want to see an abuser in action, just tune in and watch. Kate was in denial in earlier episodes …

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Church Leaders and Authors are Violating God’s Instruction About Matters of Conscience

As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions. One person believes he may eat anything, while the weak person eats only vegetables. Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who …

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