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Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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“Others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire” — Does Jude 23 relate to Domestic Abuse?

Jude 22-23 seems to tell us that we must make a difference between the weak and the wilful. The weak we must treat with tenderness. But in seeking to save the wilful we use fear. Abusers are a class of people who can be aroused only by the terrors of the law. Their conduct is loathsome and contagious. We …

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Wisdom in Dealing With an Abuser — Realize Everything he Says or Does is Evil

Frequently abuse victims will send me correspondence from their abuser and ask what I think of what the abuser said. My answer is always the same because the words are always the same. “This is evil. Every word, every phrase, every nuance is loaded with accusation, minimization, deception, threat, self-pity, and more.” And this is …

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Firsthand Witness to the Thinking of an Abusive Youth Pastor

ACFJ is regularly contacted by the wives of abusers who are pastors or missionaries. The thing is incredible, but true. Here stands a man in the pulpit or in some pastoral ministry in a church, admired by the flock, thought to be the holiest of the holy, a model husband and father. That is the …

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The Worst Abusers are the Kind Who Parade as Christian Leaders

“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (1 Timothy 5:8) He premeditates his actions. He uses people and every thing he can get as an alibi to cover or justify his actions. He is the …

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Watch Out for Wolves in Wool — a True Story of Disguises

Here at ACFJ we all know that abusers love to hide in the pews, wearing “holy” garb as a disguise. It’s one of their favorite methods, and a very effective one too.  I never cease to be amazed at how many of these mask-wearers are in churches. Recently I did some searching online to see …

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Snatched from the fire

One year ago, I was not strong enough to leave. I was in a fog that is only now being cleared by The Lord, as I’ve made an escape from the abuse. I believed that if it were just him and me, I would’ve let myself die. I could not see that he was slowly killing …

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