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Don Hennessy says domestic abusers are like pedophiles — and there’s not much proof they’re redeemable.

He’s your ideal man and your worst nightmare.  Men who abuse women tend to go through a subtle but ultimately dramatic transformation that leaves their partner desperately searching for the person he was at the start of their relationship and blaming herself for losing him along the way. “They are extremely clever people,” says Don …

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Examples of Victim-Blaming played out in Everyday Scenarios

Victim-blaming is an all too common tactic of abusers.  Huffington Post recently posted an article that featured victim-blaming logic using three one-minute videos.   As you will see it’s not very logical! This Is How Victim-Baming Logic would play out in Everyday Scenarios Each video depicts an ordinary setting in which one character uses victim-blaming …

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Jason Meyer doesn’t understand domestic abuse very well. Chris Moles trained him.

Pastor Jason Meyer is happy for people to talk about domestic abuse in mutualizing language and to airbrush the fact that perpetrators are the sole cause of abuse. He is the senior pastor at Bethlehem Baptist Church Minnesota (John Piper’s former church). Despite the fact that he and his elders have been trained by Chris …

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A Typical Line by an Abuser — “I Just Don’t Know Why She Left Me”

Recently we have been watching the reality series “Life Below Zero.”  One of the couples featured in the episodes is a clear example of an abuser and victim — Andy (abuser) and Kate (victim). If you want to see an abuser in action, just tune in and watch. Kate was in denial in earlier episodes …

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The abuser’s word salad & weird language when he’s working hard at resisting taking responsibility

When the abuser is pulling out all stops to show that he is right and you/others are wrong, his language sometimes becomes a little weird.  I have observed this kind of poor English in the language of many men who abuse their wives. (However, some abusive men are so well educated and verbally skilled that they can …

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Christian Today needs to learn how to report about domestic abuse. San Bernardino killer Cedric Anderson was NOT a ‘deeply religious’ pastor.

According to Christian Today, the San Bernardino killer Cedric Anderson was a ‘deeply religious’ pastor. This article by Mark Woods is a classic example of really bad reporting of domestic violence by journalists. Mark Woods is Managing Editor of Christian Today and a Baptist Minister. Here is the full text of the article. San Bernardino killer Cedric Anderson was …

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