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How the Threat of God’s Wrath is Used to Silence Abuse Victims

In following the story of Marie Notcheva over at Wartburg Watch, I read the following comment by a “friend” of Marie’s on Facebook. I decided to highlight this comment here in a post because THIS tactic of threatening God’s wrath for exposing evil in a church is really rather common. Here is what this “friend” had to …

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This is Where John MacArthur’s “no divorce for abuse” Leads People like Don

Here is a “christian” man who commented on one of our older posts (read it here) on John MacArthur’s teaching that God does not permit divorce for abuse. We did not publish his comment there, because it is so incredibly cruel. But I believe it is proper to expose the depths of spiritual abuse found in …

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My name is . . . and I have been abusive to my family

Occasionally we receive comments from abusers who claim they are trying to change. We usually respond privately to these types of comments, but decided that we would post this comment and make our response public. (Since this person knowingly made his comment on a public blog it is not a breach of privacy to reply publicly.  However, …

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Wise as Serpents: If the Word You are Hearing Does not Set You Free, it is not the Word of God (Part 25 of Sermon Series)

God’s truth brings believers into freedom. So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:31-32) Evil distorts, perverts, twists and morphs the Word of God into a wicked counterfeit which traumatizes people …

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A Grand Deception: The Successful Response Of Sex Offenders (by Boz Tchividjian)

A Grand Deception: The Successful Response Of Sex Offenders Normally we don’t post on Tuesdays, but this article by Boz Tchividjian is so superb — and has so many parallels to how perpetrators of domestic abuse manipulate the impressions of bystanders — that we need to let our readers know about it. Thanks Boz. This article deserves …

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Defining domestic abuse by a list of behaviors is never going to capture it

Quite often authors define domestic abuse by giving a list of behaviors. The list can include things like complaining, accusing, angry looks, name calling, denigrating, yelling, threatening, ordering, demanding, belittling, using sarcasm, showing indifference, lying and deceiving, sulking, withholding sexual intimacy, using physical violence. Here is the problem with trying to define domestic abuse as behaviors: You can’t necessarily identify who is …

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