A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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Thursday Thought — “Everyone Needs to Look at Their Part”

Our society is replete with philosophies that say that when something bad happens between two people, they have each played a part in why the injurious interaction occurred.  Many self-help books teach readers to assume that they have “co-created” any emotional wound that happens to them.  Therapists are fond of saying, “Let’s look at what …

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Thursday Thought — Why Did So Many People Side with Him?

On some days the following thoughts may rattle around inside your head:  “Okay, I can kind of see his friends backing him up, because they only hear his side of the story.  And some of them are kind of like him anyhow — that’s why they’re friends with him.  But why have people I trusted …

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Thursday Thought — Shifting Sands

Your partner has too many rules.  There are all kinds of things that have to be done just so, in the way he considers correct, or he’s going to have a fit. Everything has to be his way. And as if that weren’t stressful enough, the rules keep changing, so there’s no way to even …

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Thursday Thought — The Slow Build of Harm

I have heard the effects of living with an abusive partner compared to (get ready for this) a frog being boiled alive.  They say that if you threw a frog into hot water, it would jump back out immediately, alive and with only minor injuries.  If, on the other hand, you put the frog into …

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Thursday Thought — How Do I Make Conflicts with Him Go Better?

You have perhaps noticed that I haven’t written about how you can resolve conflicts with your partner more constructively.  That’s no accident.  I don’t believe that a woman can make things go better with a controlling or abusive man by changing how she argues with him.  Some people may say that you should bring things …

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Thursday Thought — Feeling Like You’ll Never Get Over This

After enough times of being torn apart by your partner’s cruel side, you can come to feel like nothing could ever put you back together again, and like the pain will never go away. But it will.  You aren’t always going to feel this bad.  Healing is a long process, especially when you’ve been harmed …

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