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Jason Meyer doesn’t understand domestic abuse very well. Chris Moles trained him.

Pastor Jason Meyer is happy for people to talk about domestic abuse in mutualizing language and to airbrush the fact that perpetrators are the sole cause of abuse. He is the senior pastor at Bethlehem Baptist Church Minnesota (John Piper’s former church). Despite the fact that he and his elders have been trained by Chris …

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Instone-Brewer’s Views on Divorce Compared to Mine: Part 2, Differences.

Click here for Part 1 of this two-part series To most outsiders, the person who leaves the marriage looks like the deserter. If a victim of domestic abuse leaves their abusive partner or in some other way declares the marriage over, and (as is so often the case) the abuser effectively manipulates the perceptions and opinions of the …

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Neutrality is not neutral

With domestic abuse, it’s not okay for pastors to take a neutral stance vis a vis perpetrator and victim. The church ought to fully support victims while holding perpetrators accountable. Pastors: if you take the neutral stance, you effectively become an ally of the abuser.  It means you are taking the view that both parties are …

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Helping an Abuse Victim without being Duped by the Abuser

If a friend or member of your congregation tells you of the abusive relationship she is enduring, one of the most validating things you can do is to believe her.  The validation of being believed empowers the victim and may help her to understand even more clearly the abusive relationship she is in — especially if the …

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Trying to explain, and trying and trying and trying

Lyrics Audrey Assad’s “I Shall Not Want” is to Ellie as “Eye of the Tiger” is to Rocky Balboa. Every line of that song has come to life for me in this ordeal. The second stanza, which speaks of wanting others to understand, is the part I’m really thinking about today. And deliverance has come and …

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Total Depravity Of . . . The Saints?

the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres, being no hearer who forgets but a doer who acts, he will be blessed in his doing. (James 1:25 ESV) When victims of domestic abuse disclose to a pastor that their mate is abusive, some pastors respond like this: “Total depravity …

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