A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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When the Wheels of Church Justice Move Like a Snail, it is a Sign of Injustice

Have you had the sad experience of being involved in church “courts” in the process of getting free of your abuser? Numbers of denominations have intricate court systems set up (I am thinking particularly of Presbyterians here) in which it can take months and months or even year upon year to obtain a ruling. And …

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One of the Worst Letters We Have Seen From a Pastor to an Abuse Victim

I think this is one of the most cruel letters from a pastor to an abuse victim that I have seen. While it is very similar in ways to others I have read, it is remarkably deceptive in a number of ways. The “love” words it uses. The selective and dishonest quotes it lays on …

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Threats of God’s Wrath are Often Used to Silence Victims and Witnesses

“Therefore behold, I am against the prophets,” declares the LORD, “who steal My words from each other.” “Behold, I am against the prophets,” declares the LORD, “who use their tongues and declare, ‘The Lord declares.’ “ “Behold, I am against those who have prophesied false dreams,” declares the LORD, “and related them and led My people …

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Standing Against Abuse Requires the Making of Enemies

But the Pharisees went out and conspired against him, how to destroy him. (Matthew 12:14) If a person’s intent is to remain popular with everyone, especially with all the leaders of the visible church, then following Christ, standing against evil (especially evil hiding behind religion), and exposing abusers is most certainly not possible for them. …

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A Common Tactic of Abusers is to Try to Alienate the Victim’s Allies

“I understand that you are giving _______ counsel and I want to talk to you.” I have received that kind of message many times over the past few years. A message on our church answering machine. An email. A note. I never answer these messages because I know what they are about. They are attempts …

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How Fear Perpetuates Itself in a Climate of Fear and Enables Evil. Example: bullying in ARBCA

A thousand shall flee at the threat of one; at the threat of five you shall flee, till you are left like a flagstaff on the top of a mountain, like a signal on a hill. (Isa 30:17) One man of you puts to flight a thousand, since it is the LORD your God who …

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