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The Most Common Reason Churches Enable Abusers and Oppress Victims

Now you, brothers, like Isaac, are children of promise. But just as at that time he who was born according to the flesh persecuted him who was born according to the Spirit, so also it is now. (Galatians 4:28-29) When we first began this blog some five years ago, we said that one of our …

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The Abuser Hooked her in Bible College, deceived her, married her, abused her: Dying Star’s story Part 1

She was a genuine Christian honestly wanting to serve the Lord, only to have her nightmare begin in a place she thought would surely be safe. This is part one of three parts in which “Dying Star” will tell us all the stories of how abusers deceived her. I don’t know it yet, but I’m about to enter …

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You Weren’t There — a letter to pastors from a survivor of domestic abuse

Dear Pastor James (and any other pastor who will listen), You said to me in your letter, “it is about you and John learning to understand one another.” LISTEN. Please, for once, stop talking. Stop spouting parts of Scripture passages and trite “Christian” expressions. Stop trying to fix this. Stop trying to fight for “marriage” above …

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The sins of some people are conspicuous. The sins of others appear later—Rev Iain Campbell being an example.

Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, nor take part in the sins of others; keep yourself pure. … The sins of some people are conspicuous, going before them to judgment, but the sins of others appear later. (1 Timothy 5:22, 24) One very common and widespread practice that is opening the …

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When the Wheels of Church Justice Move Like a Snail, it is a Sign of Injustice

Have you had the sad experience of being involved in church “courts” in the process of getting free of your abuser? Numbers of denominations have intricate court systems set up (I am thinking particularly of Presbyterians here) in which it can take months and months or even year upon year to obtain a ruling. And …

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One of the Worst Letters We Have Seen From a Pastor to an Abuse Victim

I think this is one of the most cruel letters from a pastor to an abuse victim that I have seen. While it is very similar in ways to others I have read, it is remarkably deceptive in a number of ways. The “love” words it uses. The selective and dishonest quotes it lays on …

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