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Do I need to forgive my abuser? — a podcast from Church Protect

Abuse survivors always wonder whether they need to forgive their abuser. Do they have to forgive? When should they forgive? Does forgiveness require anything from the abuser? Churches often force victims into forgiving their abuser and some even make it a condition of fellowship. But is this biblical? And what do those same churches require of …

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The Pastor’s Wife — An All too Frequent Ally of the Abuser

I thought that if I went to my pastor’s wife and told her what was really going on in my marriage, she would certainly understand and help me. After all, she is a woman too. There are godly women married to pastors. My wife is one. This post is in no way intended to be a blanket …

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Why We Need to be Done with Unsafe People as Soon as Possible

The wicked, like the abusers we have all confronted, are like black holes who suck life and energy out of us. Why? Because when we are in the presence of an abuser we must be on guard at all times. The soul of the wicked desires evil; his neighbor finds no mercy in his eyes. …

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Dear Church: Stop Trying To Convert Wolves — by Jimmy Hinton, from ChurchProtect.org

There was a recent article published at The Gospel Coalition titled Beware of Broken Wolves. While I [Jimmy Hinton*] appreciate the notion that we need to beware of wolves, this idea that wolves are broken is something that has permeated the church and has no biblical basis. We have spoken to dozens of churches in …

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Red Flags indicating a victim is at high risk of being killed or almost killed by her abuser

This infographic comes from DVRCV (Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria, Australia). It highlights the factors that put family violence victims at increased risk of being killed or seriously injured. These risk factors have been ascertained by research that looked at the backstory of lethal and near-lethal cases of domestic violence. The infographic can be downloaded as a …

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What Does the Devil Look Like? Getting Wise to the Abuser’s Victim-Playing Schemes

One of the most frequent tactics used by the worst abuser I have ever had to deal with was that of playing the victim. And it was more than that. He would put on a facial expression that had successfully “worked” for him all his life, gaining him people’s sympathy. At other times he would …

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