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Differences Between an Abusive Marriage and a Healthy One — a reblog from Give Her Wings

Many thanks to Megan C for giving us permission to reblog her article. So many times, women who have left abusive relationships hop right out of the frying pan and into the fire because a man comes along who is a tiny bit “better” than the former abuser. It is so difficult to see that …

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Wise as Serpents: The Seductive Beauty of Evil  (Part 11 of sermon series)

As we continue to consider the nature and tactics of evil and those who are its emissaries, we must once again remind ourselves that this darkness cannot overcome the Light of Christ. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your …

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Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men — Lundy Bancroft video presentation

As many of you know we highly recommend Lundy Bancroft’s seven part series titled “Domestic Violence in Popular Culture” (here is a link to our post that provides a YouTube link to each part). So we were excited when we recently found another YouTube video by Lundy Bancroft that is also excellent.  We have put it on …

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Thursday Thought — 8 Red Flags when Dating

During a presentation Lundy Bancroft was asked, “If you were speaking to a group of young women what would you say about what to watch out for in a relationship?” He replied with these eight red flags. 1)  Watch out for jealousy and possessiveness. To young women in particular this tends to be really flattering — “Oh, …

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Thursday Thought — Charm: A Red Flag

He is so charming!  Oh, isn’t he charming!  How often have victims heard phrases like these used to describe their abuser?  Too often, far too often. Gavin de Becker, author of The Gift of Fear, [affiliate link*], and Dr. George Simon have some informative insight into this common abuser tactic.  Take a moment to read de …

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The Most “Godly” Person You Know Probably Isn’t

Proverbs 6:12-14 A worthless person, a wicked man, goes about with crooked speech, winks with his eyes, signals with his feet, points with his finger, with perverted heart devises evil, continually sowing discord; Just when my day is going along smoothly and I am actually getting some things on my list done, POW! Something happens …

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