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Thursday Thought — Prayerfully Hand Shame Back to the Abuser

One of the most empowering things an abuser survivor can do is to prayerfully hand shame back to his or her abuser.  Theologians rarely discuss this concept, but it’s a frequent biblical theme.  Biblical writers often asked God to shame their abusive enemies. [*see below for scripture references].  Most likely, this meant asking God to …

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The Devilish Nature of the Abuser – He is the Accuser

Revelation 12:9-10 And the great dragon was thrown down, that ancient serpent, who is called the devil and Satan, the deceiver of the whole world–he was thrown down to the earth, and his angels were thrown down with him.  And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying, “Now the salvation and the power and …

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Temptations and pitfalls of helping victims (victim-advocacy)

Christians, pastors, leaders, and bloggers sometimes talk about the evils of domestic abuse but use illustrations of abuse that are really extreme. For example: “What if a husband was kicking his wife’s teeth down her throat?” That kind of extreme illustration of domestic abuse may briefly arouse the concern of the average bystander who is inexperienced in domestic abuse, but …

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By ignoring domestic abuse, Christians can stigmatize victims— an example from Dallas Theological Seminary

Raising Children in a Sex-Saturated Society, Part 1 is a video made by Dallas Theological Seminary. It is from their weekly Table Podcast program which “treats key topics related to God, religion, Christianity, and Culture.” It is a public education program that DTS produces for any Christians, not just for DTS seminary students. As a …

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Defiant Boys: one mother’s story of the problems of parenting after domestic abuse

It was the message that touched me the most. Pastor Jeff had ‘called my name’ as we say back home. For the first time a Pastor I knew said out loud “what your husband has done to you is wrong; Abuse is sin”. He validated my pain and showed me from the word of God …

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“I am abused.” Those words are so hard to say

Every survivor of abuse will identify with those words. Saying “I am abused” means passing through a membrane into a whole new reality. In this new world everything is different, scary, confronting . . . “I’m one of those women — a victim of abuse!” (I admit: I used to subconsciously look down on victims …

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