A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

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I Let My Husband Rape Me, and Here’s Why… — by Amber Barnhill

I let him abuse me to keep him from abusing me. The problem with fundamentalist Christian culture isn’t that it doesn’t teach rape is wrong, but that it doesn’t know what rape actually is. Fundamentalist Christian culture taught me that if it wasn’t violent or you didn’t cry for help, that wasn’t rape, that was …

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Patrick’s Story of being abused by his wife

The abuse I suffered was a product of dominance, but the gender roles were switched. My wife was older, had a dominant personality and was used to getting her own way. I was a quiet and sensitive person from a loud, working-class area and used to being bullied. Our relationship had sprung out of that …

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Let him who is without sin cast the first stone. And how Highpoint Church Memphis twisted it to defend Andy Savage.

When Jesus said “Let him who is without sin cast the first stone” he was speaking to a bunch of hypocritical men who were quite happy to mistreat a woman for their own agenda. Their agenda was to discredit Jesus…they saw the woman as disposable. They were using the woman just so they could induce …

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Shattering the silence: James’s Story of growing up with an abusive father

I think it’s crucial to highlight the myriad stories of church domestic abuse, including the impacts such abuse can have on children. My first memory of violence is of being dragged to my room by my panicked mother, who wanted my siblings and me — I was very young — to be quiet before my …

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Undiminished — a guest post

A thesaurus tells my story… I read a sentence today that literally jumped off the page at me. I am just me, undiminished in size or power. I kept reading it over and over. It was like I was seeing myself in a mirror for the first time in years. I was recognizing the true me for …

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#churchtoo Raped, tracked, humiliated: Clergy wives speak out about domestic violence

Women who were married to abusive priests and pastors are for the first time revealing their experiences of sexual assault, control and fear. They say the church has known for decades that some clergy abuse their wives but has done very little to fix the ongoing problem. Raped, tracked, humiliated: Clergy wives speak out about …

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