A Cry For Justice

Awakening the Evangelical Church to Domestic Violence and Abuse in its Midst

Author Archive: Jeff Crippen

This is What Enables Evil to Hide in Our Churches

This post is difficult for me to write because I have lived it so many, many times. The subject gets my blood pressure, dander, ire and anger “up” big time. I hate this stuff. It is soooo prevalent in our churches and there is no excuse for it. This time, as is so common, it …

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A Typical Line by an Abuser — “I Just Don’t Know Why She Left Me”

Recently we have been watching the reality series “Life Below Zero.”  One of the couples featured in the episodes is a clear example of an abuser and victim — Andy (abuser) and Kate (victim). If you want to see an abuser in action, just tune in and watch. Kate was in denial in earlier episodes …

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Woman as Owned Property —A Prevailing Mentality in the Church

I have mentioned in past articles that I have known professing Christian men (and women who have bought into it) who really believe that a wife is the husband’s property. Owned. He sees his children that way too, even when they grow up. His. Mine. Holds the title deed to them. One such man — …

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If You Refuse to See the Ugliness of Evil, You will be the Ally of Evil

Most people refuse to see evil, because evil is unpleasant. It is ugly. And dealing with it is not pretty either. But if we refuse to see evil, to confront it, to take action against it, we will not only become its ally, we will never see the glory of God’s righteous justice. Christ said …

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Another abuser-enabling, victim-enslaving book: Jim Newheiser’s  “Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage”

Pastor Jim Newheiser has simply rehashed the same old enslaving party lines about marriage that evangelicals have been regurgitating like a cow chewing its cud. If I had a way of putting a visual here of me shaking my head while muttering to myself, I would. Because that is what I am doing as I …

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Wisdom in Dealing With an Abuser — Realize Everything he Says or Does is Evil

Frequently abuse victims will send me correspondence from their abuser and ask what I think of what the abuser said. My answer is always the same because the words are always the same. “This is evil. Every word, every phrase, every nuance is loaded with accusation, minimization, deception, threat, self-pity, and more.” And this is …

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